When You're So Weird, You Can't Even Be Around Other Aspies

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I don't know if any of you have this issue, but it seems I have a tendency to not really get along with anyone in general, including other aspies. I seem to get along slightly better with NTs, at least temporarily, but around other aspies I tend to still be too different from them and it's hard for me to get along with them. I don't know if it's just me or what...

Hmmm...maybe ask the aspies you've met what they found strange or difficult about your behavior? Aspies are more likely to be honest and open about it than NTs I think.

It could be that your interests don't intersect or something, since NTs are more likely to talk to get to know you and bond and not just because they enjoy the topic.

I'm not surprised. I think most people put pressure on other people to "be like them." Even if they know that person is an Aspie who has difficulty making any sort of changes.

This is one of the big points of how Sesame Street is handling autism. Getting those around Julie to accept her the way she is.

I dont understand this misconception people have that aspies get along better with other aspies. There may be a kernel of truth in it, particularly among the most intelligent/intellectually inclined pairings of aspies, but in general, if you're yourself socially inept, to try to make friends with someone else who's socially inept is only going to compound your difficulties.

Personally, I've found intelligent NTs far easier to relate to than aspies of any intellectual level. Most other aspies I've met have been disappointing, quite frankly.

It may not be you (the OP).

It may just be the nature of aspies.

Aspies deviate from the center, but in different directions. Whereas NTs gravitate to the middle.

So you think of aspies as being the folks in the nosebleed seats of a stadium seated around the high rim of the place, while the NTs are all seated in the prime seats near the football field. The NTs are all closer to each other than the aspies are to each other. And the aspies are also closer to the NTs in the center of the stadium then they are to the aspies seated on the opposite rim of the stadium. If you get my visual metaphor you can see how the mentally of a typical aspie might be close to that of all NTs than to that of half of the aspies in the venue who are seated on the opposite rim of the stadium.

I haven't interacted much with other autistics except on this forum, but have often thought that if I were to meet myself I would either get along great with myself or hate myself. I suspect this is the way it is with most autistics. They either get along great or clash horribly.

I'm fairly ok on here (once I accept it isn't a Scottish forum like 90% of places I hang out online...) but in real life I have issues.

I had one aspie friend. We stayed up all night talking about being aspie and dyspraxic. She invited me to her flat. I'm not a gamer. She spent the whole time playing a video game and ignoring me...

Most aspies are like that who I know in real life. Cliquey about geek culture which I'm not into. I tried to be in my teen years but I'm just not.

I struggle with the same issue. I've always been kind of an "in betweener." Other aspies don't share the same interests as I do and I'm usually more outgoing, though still introverted. I've given up on trying to fit in with the norm and instead I'm trying to find a place where I already do. If not, that is fine. I don't see it as a bad thing though it can be lonely

Some aspies just can’t stand other aspies. Some people in general have trouble getting along with others.

My husband is an aspie who is instantly well liked by pretty much anyone who meets him, but he is terribly stressed out by most social interaction. Guys will want to hang out with him but he just can’t do it. It’s too much.