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When you first heard/read about Asperger's and some parts did and others did not jive with your situation, did you go in stages of letting out Aspie behaviors that you may have bottled up or sublimated over the years... for example did you think to yourself, "hmm, a lot of this sounds like me except for the rocking" but then one afternoon you find yourself alone and letting your mind wander and come to and realize you WERE rocking but just a little? And you realized you felt noticable calm? Or, you found yourself pacing back and forth, thinking, then stopping and saying, "Is this the pacing back and forth they're talking about?" Or you let yourself observe whatever you want and you notice that your uncensored gaze does indeed seem to rivet on certain things - the little holes in salt shakers - and gazing at them did indeed give you some pleasure? Did you then recollect, "I did see one of those infinity lights and I would've liked to look at it a lot longer than I did."
Did this make sense?
Do all these questions go under the definition of perseverating?
Thanks, this is probably enough questions for a few days.

I think it has to do with noticing a lot of behaviors which you haven't before simply because they didn't necessarily seem outta the ordinary at the time.

Yeah that's what I was trying to say.

Example: For a long time I didn't think it strange that I looked at peoples' mouths when I am talking with them, until I read that most NTs look at peoples' eyes a lot more than I ever do. I don't like eyes at all.

I tend to look away. Lately I've tried to exert conscious effort to remain focused on their face/eyes, but I don't hold it very long. I also tend to cause agony to the listener because of trying to find the best words - phrases get derailed before they get going. Even when I rehearse exactly what I will say.

Hi,

New here... don't mind if I jump in, do you?

I find that I feel less stupid/embarrassed/frustrated when I do something I then realize is unconventional. Like, oh, I guess I took that guy literally and gave him a 2 minute technical dissertation on something when he was just trying to be polite... oops...

I've also realized how much mental effort and emotional energy I put into modifying my behaviour. So, now, I'm more inclined to cut myself a break every so often in non-critical situations and just let other people deal with it.

By the way, I tend to avoid eye looking people in the eye because, if I do, I feel compelled to try to figure out what the look "means", realize I have no idea how to read them, and either weird myself out or lose track of what I'm saying. If I can avoid that, it's not so bad.

I never noticed that I flap my hands until I read about it being associated with autism. Now I catch myself doing it a lot, but I probably did it a lot anyway.

Having read about and come to understand Asperger's, I worry less about trying to fit in, and more about doing what makes me happy (as long as it doesn't upset other people). In that sense, I suppose I seem more Aspie now that I did before I heard about it.

Hmmmmm?....Slight pause by Ghosthunter!! !! !! !! !
Why? What is going on internally, or externally,
perhaps both!




Hmmmmmm? Again why? Hmmmmmm? Let's start
with the basics!

AS?
HFA?
PDD,NOS?

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

Reading people! This is a very common weakness
that requires some practice and patience, but DON'T
expect perfection. There is a word for it? I forgot what
the word was!



Good and Bad, you develop coping skills by phasing in
step-by-step progressive familiarity of you weaknesses.
Don't hide, it becomes a bad obsessession and escape.
Just do encounters in doses! Coping skills and relearnings
will then take place!



A very common flaw in autism spectumed disorders!
Be patient and with practice you can see some progress
in being better at reading faces and emotions!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

Join the boat. I make a practiced effort to be concious
of it and still occassionally slip. Practice in being concious
of when you do it will help you know how to regulate it.



Good! Learning to accept yourself is #1, learning to live
and cope in the Physical world is #2. They both have
equal values, but one is internal(you have to live with
yourself) and the other is external(external envirements
change but learned skills from each one can better improve
your coping and social weaknesses).

Very Good!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

I don't remember rocking as a adult! As a kid
I don't remember neither.



Yes! Listening to music! But......
I will stretch in public or fidgit with something
in times of external annoyances.



All the time in deep thought! Is this normal?



Definely, and this is a very common trait in autism!



Definely, and this another common trait in autism!

Hmmmmmm?
Ghosthunter

You posts are great to read Ghosthunter. I always love it when you pop on on a thread.

Yes, this definativly happened to me. Some things I was clearly aware of, and others I was not until a few days after I read the lists.

Many things are difficult to seperate from my deafness, so in many areas I am not so sure!

I think this has to do with the fact that some of us consider Asperger's Syndrome a gift. I am very grateful that the people who deal with it do.

Although my parents don't agree with my SDx, most of the postive traits they constantly praise me for every day. *shrugs*

Exactly!