Joe90 wrote:
I would post my positive social experiences, but a lot of people on autism sites have a habit of doubting your social success by telling you that you only 'think' you're socialising successfully on some occasions but really you are 'not'. So that basically sets me back into a negative spiral again.
I don't/wouldn't doubt you.
I have to disagree that autistics, in general, have a habit of doubting other autistic people about this.
Maybe I just haven't come across this sort of problem before. <shrug>
In theory, those on the spectrum tend to inherently believe people.
We have to learn that you can't trust, as a default, what neurotypicals say.
But the last time I checked, most of us here are on the spectrum.
BTW, I like to think I have overcome a lot of social misunderstanding through what I call: "Intellectual Bridges".
Meaning: We substitute intuitive understanding (which we don't have) of neurotypical social rituals with intellectual "patches".
Isn't "masking" the same sort of thing?
BenderRodriguez wrote:
There are. But people who are struggling are posting more, looking for advice, support etc.
At least in the L&D some of the regulars used to react to "success stories" with extreme hostility, envy and anger, sometimes even accusing people of bragging or lying. Also, advice from people who are actually in good relationships, encouragement and practical recommendations are often rejected in favour of negative echo-chambers

Well, The only forum I used to frequent was "PPR".
Where everything was puppies and kittens.
Errr.
Maybe I should just shut up, sit back and listen.
There seems to be a dark autistic underworld I wasn't aware of. EEP!