Growing Up Into Adulthood.

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I remember when I reached a certain age and my Dad gave some advice (Not quite an order in that you must do but half between an order and advice). He looked at all my toys and things (As I had lots) when I was a young adult of around 16 to 17 and said "Dont you think you are gettinb a bit old for these?" and he pointed things out a bit at a time, like a large collection of teddies, and toy cars etc. But he started saying about my trains and then he said "No, there's something about your trains. Keep your trains". It was like he knew! He knew they are important to me and my future. Later in life he became a Christian, but even before that he knew some profound things at times. And he wasn't one who was into spiritual stuff, but when God did something, he knew!
At around that age to the age of 18 I had quite a change in what I parted with. Some things I hung onto for many years before I let them go. Lego was one of them. Nearly all my teddies went to my young cousin. She must have ended up with a room full! Haha! (The last two years I have sneaked in four new teddies which sit in my car. Little ones. My youngest brother made two when he was younger. He said they were to keep me company. I think he aas about seven years old when he made them. The other two were made by a lady my Mums age that we know. She is brilliant at knitting but only if she can see and follow a knitting pattern.

Anyway, what we keep and what we part with as we go through life... It varies from one of us to another. As I am naturally very very clingy to possessions, I think my Dad had to give me a little shove and get me to think about things...

Your dad had sage advice. One can get rid of clutter in their lives, while preserving special things of value and those associated with things of true interest.

Every now and then in life I have had to have some major decisions. I am still trying to downsize. It is not easy!

Me, I have animals toys and some things like that... It's a collection for me. I have also video games from my childhood.

Nice. I don't have any video games.

My son was once criticized for having stuffed animals into his early teens. I have noticed that Asperger kids tend to let go of childish things a little later in life than others. I suspect this is because the Aspergers neurological variant often results in intentional thinking, and the thinking of a child often sees little reason to give up that which is pleasurable. However, as the child develops into adulthood, continuing intentional assessment often results in decisions to set aside things from younger days.

I see the resistance to bullying or social criticism to conform to the expectations of others as a positive character trait.

I was and am really, really, really glad and relieved my Dad saw that I needed trains. I don't know how he knew. I can only say that God showed him. He was about to tell me to give them up and he stopped, and said "There's something about them...Keep the trains!"