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I am not and will probably never be a joiner. I will usually be off doing my own thing. By joiner I mean someone who participates in group activities.

Lurking is not a crime. Taking center stage or being in the spotlight can create a lot of anxiety. Anxiety is not something we do well with.

The lurker may learn much over time. Eventually the lurker can float out a comment that while brief can be very helpful for someone else.

In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise. - Proverbs 10:19

A couple of years ago, I used to be receptive to Meetup or social event once in a while

But the problem is that all parties have different expectations subconsciously

And "pick your battles"


Usually it is not worth the energy


Cost benefit analysis



For example, (in a yoga studio) a meditation "instructor" had the nerve to tell me that "we would rather not have you doing yoga. It's distracting"


Correct

But we would rather not have you continue living. It's distracting" is also correct


Every action is grounding, neither or disrracting

Three categories

There are seven billion people in the world

Each category contains more than two people


It was his attitude


Just a couple of weeks earlier the lil penis had the nerve to tell me that he cared about me


It's like, yes I "care" about you, provided that you do nothing that I find "distracting"





Anyone could correctly label anything as "distracting"


And he acted like he did me a personal favor


It was his attitude


Annoying ass hole



What else do I have to clarify beforehand, please do not shoot my worthless corpse with an AK 47?



When I interact with someone, sometimes I make wrong expectations.



They are not worth the energy it takes to interact with them

I prefer to stay on the periphery.

Yeah...I’m the periphery type, too.

Me too.

I like to be respected despite that, since I respect those who like to be “social.”

They should respect your wishes, expressed respectfully.