Trust issues with others.

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Hey all,

Do you experience trust issues with others wether they're nt or not..?

I'm not sure if or how much my trust with others is affected from things that have happened to me like growing up l, poor choices I've made, poor decisions with people I've befriended, etc..?

I find myself incapable of trusting anybody, like literally anybody! And unsure of why exactly and no therapist has aged much in light of what the underlying reason is specifically!

For whatever reason I won't go into detail but I feel like running away from everyone and myself, from my home and all.. depression and sadness seems to be all I am capable of feeling.

Now I must be the only person who feels like this, right.?? :Scratch:

If anything, I'm TOO trusting....

Hi Dan ... Yes ... trauma! 100%. I saw this in the past week and it was one of those lightbulb moments ... i trusted naively in the past, and don’t really let too many people get close as a result. I cannot ask for advice or help at all ... Ever, and I feel that to trust is a fool’s game, but it’s no longer important to me, as I cannot imagine allowing anyone to truly get that close again. But, I found this was also tied into not being able to rely on others as well or ask for advice. The following rings true for me ... I should add that certain people in my life are close to me, but I can’t imagine ever allowing myself to be tied down ever again. Being free feels too nice now ... I wouldn’t want anyone else to feel tied down either. The less complications, the better.

Very well put ....... keep your trust close to your heart .......I wish could have worded the trust issues better .
But just don’t have enough good experiences anymore. Sorry Juliette for your experiences

^^ You put it very well, Jakki. Your wording was just fine.

Juliette - That image really spoke to me: thanks for posting it .

Glad if it helped you as much as it did me, Arian.

the world is constantly changing, including the people in it.
This is a real head f**k for people with ASD, as we like things to be fixed, and everything to be in its place and to follow a schedule

If everything keeps on changing, you start to doubt your self and lose trust in the people and world around you.
I am lucky however that i have one or two good friends, as well as good parents who are pretty stable and trust worthy.

Most other people who i come into contact with however are a lot less stable in terms of what they say and do
including some of my mates who have ASD... but i know they have their own problems and are as spooked by life as much as i am...

Toaism is a good philosophy to learn to let go of expectations
learn to follow the universe
and enjoy what it has to offer us

find peace

Complex Trauma is characterised by difficulties with trust and interpersonal relationships. Sometimes the trauma occurs in early childhood or infancy, and we don't remember it because we were too young to form conscious memories. Sometimes our minds just repress the memories, even if we were older. This lack of trust can lead to hyper-vigilance about maintaining personal autonomy, without depending on others or putting oneself at risk of vulnerability.

It sounds like you may be experiencing trauma, or at the very least a form of social phobia / social anxiety.

You are certainly not alone. Many people experience the types of fears that you describe.

I have trust issues, but I also doubt myself a lot and often end up letting people take advantage of me anyways by ignoring red flags.