Cheeriness.

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Cheerfulness.
I think being cheerful is special. It is happiness. It is being who you're meant to be.
Now what happens when we get depressed? We find everything is soo much harder to do. Wr feel like we are dragging weight behind us.
So, never be afraid to enjoy yourself just as you are. Be who you are meant to be. x

Yep.

We are frequently depressed enough as it is.

We should take advantage of times when we feel cheerful.

Sometimes I feel too alone and down to be depressed. So I invent things to make me feel more cheerful instead. Trains are good for this! Model trains. Or visiting nice places.

I find the above to be a very smart thing to do.

I knew a female professor who built a model train station and tracks in her backyard (UK=“garden”).

I could do that but it does take a lot of weeding.

I guess it would be easier if you got a motorized weeder or something.

Weeding by hand is very hard work.

I could invent one. I am the son of a Mom who is the daughter of a Dad who was a well known designer.... So I can do it too.... But... For now I have different things to work on.

Happiness is not magical or special


Happiness is overrated


Happiness is not even superior to sadness



Sad is not a catastrophe

Anger is not a felony


Way too many precious lil "people" act like they have a moral "right" to be happy at all times and if they are not happy, someone must have violated their stupidass "rights"


Nobody has a "right" to be happy


Not even Trump


You have a right to be silent,




Precious lil "people" keep saying "sad" this and "unfortunate" that, but not everything is happy, nor should it be


When lil dips**ts like Amy Lee scheel b***h and Rolando Morales penis burst out giggling, that's not justified


They act like they are so secure and the world is a playground


The world is a torture chamber, not an amusement park


It is also annoying when idiots have the nerve to ask me "are you ok?"


They don't have the skill or authority to "help" me, so why the f**k are they asking?


Robin Williams committed suicide


Facade


Not everyone is as happy and successful as they look like they are s**t



Makes me wonder about Warren pottebaum



Some psychiatric diagnoses have excessive laughter as, a symptom



Warren is so uppity and keeps massaging s**t into jokes and laughter


Cheerful



But maybe just masking


Acting s**t

I mask with a sense of humour sometimes. It is the most fun way to mask but is aweful when the mask breaks about a year or two later..

But making life into humour does help cope with difficult situations. Is like eearing a protective suit of armour. Without it, I am silent and vunerable.

Masking with humor is okay but it shouldn't mean that you're suppressing your feelings. Having negative feelings is okay too.

I find a lot of little things in life quite satisfying. Sometimes it's nice to take pleasure in those as much as I can. People say I'm easily entertained. I say those things other people take for granted:

- using a rite-in-the-rain notebook when it is actually raining and the drops roll right off of the page
- folding my shirts to be exactly the right size for my drawer
- a warm cat sitting on my belly and purring
- the smell of onions hitting a hot pan at dinnertime

Many precious lil "people" say "depressed" as the opposite of "happy"


Wrong


"Depressed" is a diagnosis . "Happy" is an emotion

Happy , sad

Depressed, manic

"Happiness" is not special. At least, not any more than "sadness" is special

"Special" is not necessarily a good thing

Special Ed

Euphemism


Logic is not superior to emotion



But emotion does not replace logic

I agree it's probably wise to try and stay cheerful, and although there are limits to how well that can be achieved, I think it's possible to have some conscious impact on one's spirits. I try not to get morbid, with some success I think. I used to do this thing where I'd allow a lot of negative thoughts, and I couldn't feel them whittling away at my mood. I can't honestly say I ever found out for sure that they were doing that, but it seems to be the received wisdom that it's bad for the soul, so these days I keep more of a brake on it.

It seems to help me to establish a positive general manner when I'm with certain people who seem to enjoy my bright patter. Once I'm in the habit of it with a particular person or group, I tend to find it becomes a habit for me to be like that when I'm with them, and so it feels like they cheer me up when they're around, though it can also get stressful if I have to be with them for too long, I guess because I have a dark side too. I suppose it's best not to put on too much of a clown's persona, but just to try to be reasonably bright for most of the time, and to allow the occasional bit of pathos when it's appropriate, otherwise it can start to get rather fake and precarious.

In the past I've been prone to deep depression. I've been hospitalised for it, it's been that bad. But for the past 5 years I've been mostly fine. My co-workers at the second hand shop are very funny and I laugh a lot while I'm there. It's easy to feel cheerful these days.

That's lovely.
I have had depression on and off but I have never told anyone about it. I have ben able to mask through it. I go quiet when depressed. It can last many months. So I put on a cheery face and carry on.

The fear with depression heee is if I said something, doctors would give me tablets for the rest of my life, and when a tsunami comes I won't be able to get any tablets and be in a right mess.

So I keep quiet and try to pull out of it myself. Various ways. Withdraw. Or eat my way out of it if enough food is available. (I found I didn't put on too much weight as I usually had the runs on and off throughout my life... Though I am heavier then I used to be).

Sometimes I can cycle it off, but in recent years, due to being fragile and worn out with bouts of partial shutdown, cycling is out of the question...

I am not eating much these days... But it is just as well as we need to economize as my brother often needs help etc as he can't work due to a crumbling spine and the benefits people keep messing him about.

I agree. I try to find happy things, too. For me, it's cat and animal videos. They are cute and fun to watch.