Did you have a lot of tantrums as a kid?

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Joe90
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09 Sep 2019, 11:03 am

I was prone to temper tantrums as a kid. I didn't take disappointment very well, even as a teenager. I remember one time when I was 13, I was really excited about a sleepover with my cousin, but then the sleepover got cancelled, and I lost it. I jumped around the living-room, screaming and crying. I finally calmed down when my mum quickly arranged for another cousin to stay for a sleepover (she was a younger cousin). I think my mum did that because I was rather socially isolated at that age and she knew I craved company. So she wasn't angry with me for having a tantrum (she wasn't the one who cancelled the sleepover).

I remember having a tantrum when I was 10, when me and my family were staying in a beach house for a weekend. The beach house had 3 bedrooms, which meant me and my brother had one bedroom each. But I didn't want to sleep in a bedroom on my own, I wanted my brother to share with me, as there were 2 beds in each room. When I asked him and he said no, I threw a tantrum. I laid on the couch, screaming and kicking, hoping he would give in, but he didn't. In the end I calmed down and accepted that I had to sleep on my own.

Anyway, did you have a lot of tantrums as a kid?


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09 Sep 2019, 11:12 am

I had quite a few. Yes.



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09 Sep 2019, 11:22 am

I remember being sullen, withdrawn, shy and shut down, always wanting to be alone. I didn't like answering questions or having any change in my routine (e.g., travel) and I had a lot of sensory issues. Despite this I don't remember having demonstrative meltdowns. My mother surprised me by saying that I was a very moody, stubborn child and that I did have a lot of tantrums even in my adolescence. I was quite shocked to hear this because I don't remember tantrums or meltdowns. My brother agrees they happened.



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09 Sep 2019, 11:29 am

I could be quite bolshy and sulky compared to my brother and sister . I'm not sure it ever reached tantrum level though.


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09 Sep 2019, 11:40 am

never .

I didnt speak til i was 8 but i didnt have any tantrums or meltdowns either
I was mute and the only time i ever cried was when was I hurt myself

otherwise i just let everything soak in and was just in my own world and very happy

I didnt always like getting dressed (my mum dressed me
but I didnt scream or cry when she tried to dress me i just wriggled away crossly


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09 Sep 2019, 12:27 pm

To the point of disability... And I still get them. For a time in my 20's mostly I had few meltdowns, but now they are getting worse under the stress of being married to someone with some severe problems of his own.


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09 Sep 2019, 12:40 pm

Well yes, most do, but I'm not sure which ones were normal tantrums and which ones meltdowns caused by sensory issues and such. I definitely had both, though.



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09 Sep 2019, 1:01 pm

I remember being told I was very whiney. I was shy and cried a lot, but don’t think I really had tantrums when younger. I didn’t really start to lose it until I was in my teens.



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09 Sep 2019, 1:36 pm

psychogirl wrote:
I remember being told I was very whiney. I was shy and cried a lot, but don’t think I really had tantrums when younger. I didn’t really start to lose it until I was in my teens.


I did whine a lot too. I think it was related to my anxiety though, or maybe I used whining as a way of stimming perhaps. But at the time I didn't know I was whining, then everybody got into the habit of saying 'stop moaning'. I got so sick of being told those same words, that I finally managed to work on differentiating what is whining and what wasn't and when it's an appropriate time to whine and when it isn't. So I rarely get told to stop moaning or complaining any more.


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09 Sep 2019, 1:44 pm

I once threw a tantrum in front of my dad.

Once.

After that, I did as I was told.


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09 Sep 2019, 1:45 pm

I cried a lot when I was a kid and also couldn't handle hurt feelings and when I had no control of a situation and whenever I thought my mom wasn't listening to me when I would be upset, I would attack her. I didn't attack other kids unless provoked. It was a matter of see things my way or I would get very frustrated and start crying and argue with you until you understood me. I think now it was a matter of an adult not agreeing with me but to me they were not listening. But I am sure I was not listening to them as well because I also didn't agree with them so I kept on telling them my side and would get louder and louder and cry and argue. Probably another reason why my school decided I had behavior problems.


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09 Sep 2019, 1:54 pm

I once reacted very badly to a babysitter that she said she'd never babysit for my parents again . That was probably my biggest tantrum . She was reckoned to be the best babysitter in San Francisco . It was the only time I can remember that my father spanked me .


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09 Sep 2019, 2:26 pm

What I had weren't really tantrums, I don't think, but rather meltdowns because I couldn't handle my emotions. I never did it deliberately to try to get my way or anything, but it probably did look like that was what I was doing because sometimes I just couldn't handle being told "no." I remember as an older child, I'd even go up to my room to do it because I knew what I needed was some time alone to get it out.


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09 Sep 2019, 2:50 pm

I was prone to crying when I was in grade school and middle school in part because I was bullied a lot.


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09 Sep 2019, 3:24 pm

I had tantrums more at home though, not so much out in public. I went through a phase of tantrums when I was 4-5 at school, but I grew out of having tantrums at school when I got to 6. But the tantrums carried on at home. But I didn't have tantrums every day. I was also very hyperactive.


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