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23 Oct 2019, 1:15 pm

Is anyone else a bit like me where I am a type of "All or nothing" character where I either give out my all and can come across as too much, or I withdraw and you get nothing (Often with mild depression) as I don't seem able to find a middle inbetween ground?


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23 Oct 2019, 4:07 pm

Yep. I've been all or nothing for my whole life. With people, things, hobbies, anything.



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23 Oct 2019, 4:14 pm

I am glad I am not alone in this.


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23 Oct 2019, 4:42 pm

Its the same when I try to make friends. Can come across as over friendly or under friendly. For me it is overfriendly.


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23 Oct 2019, 8:52 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Its the same when I try to make friends. Can come across as over friendly or under friendly. For me it is overfriendly.


I used to be like that at school but it started biting me in the butt so I just stopped having friends all together.



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23 Oct 2019, 10:11 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Its the same when I try to make friends. Can come across as over friendly or under friendly. For me it is overfriendly.


I used to be like that but I just got hurt a lot because I believe other's value of you can be affected by how available you seem (within reason). I was too available. Now I still feel the same way but monitor how I express it by doing things like leaving at least a 3 day gap between convos, not calling often etc. I still come off too strong at times but it is definitely better.