Video to train eye contact!

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I get anxious with eye contact, so i have an idea to look for videos to practice and i found that they exist! Heres one

I fail to see how 33 minutes of people staring into the camera can help anyone who has difficulties with eye contact. It reminds me of what I did when I was younger which was to stare holes thru people. I had no idea that I was creeping them out. If anything, THAT is what this video teaches.

Its not about should just staring at em, its try to identify what kinds of feelings/emotions and facial expressions or maybe thoughts they are having. For me that i have phobia of looking into people eyes that video can be useful. Well i got out of breath with some of the looks, because some of em get me anxious, like the couple staring.

I also have huge problem with eye contact. I try to avoid it and therefore people often think I'm weird and that I just don't want to talk with them..
The problem is that on the video I don't have problem mantaining eye contact, but in real life - I would rather not tell. It's so difficult

foxant--I must respectfully differ. You are making this video into one that lets you practice reading peoples' faces to determine their mood, their emotional state, level of excitement, etc. While this video is good for that, it does not begin to help anyone who has difficulties with eye contact.

Eszarizmela--Yes, when you watch a video or see pictures of people supposedly looking at us we are ok with it because we know they are representations, not real people. The problem arises when we encounter people irl. A video that would help with eye contact would first have to in some way drastically reduce our anxiety of looking others in the eyes. If it could do that, and that is certainly easier said than done, then it would follow up with details on when and how long to look at their eyes and when to look away, for how long, and where to look. The question of where to look (when you look away) is perhaps most important because looking at a blank wall or the ceiling becomes insulting; but looking at something passing by, a note pad, or even a pen you are holding is more legitimate. This is what I was expecting the video to be about but was very disappointed to only see people looking at the camera, and no speaking, only a light music audio track.

Agreed. Imo this video is not only not helpful to autistic people. It is out and harmful. Heartbreaking that someone would make a video like this and think it would help autistic people. So little understanding about autism or anything, again imo. I will not go into the how and why of this on this thread as I have written about this subject when I was here before.

Eye contact needs to be natural. It comes from within. If a person cannot make eye contact they need to work on this is a different way. To the OP, this is not a criticism of you but of the person who made this video. You are trying to help yourself and that motivation is good. You will find many new ways. And I wish you much blessings and happiness. If you were with me you would not need to make eye contact. We would talk.