Do You Trigger Emotional Mind of Others?

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I find that I trigger a response from emotional mind of other people with how I communicate in writing when I say rather matter of fact things.
I find their dramatic public response of explaining to be offended to be far more inappropriate than the factually correct statement I made that they're responding too.
When do they get a disorder slapped on them and forced into therapy for being completely self-absorbed?

Just venting. I don't think people on the spectrum should have to apologize for situations as these.

You are not the only one.  Some of us seem to have an innate talent for upsetting others over the most innocently-presented of factual statements. At least , so I've been told...

You don't have to be autistic to be "triggering." Lots of NT's are pretty insensitive, too. They are blunt, and are not diplomatic

What I would do: I would ask the person why he/she is upset. Then explain why you made the factual statement. I would state that I did not mean to upset you, and that I'm sorry if I did. But what I said is true.

You also have to know the situation. If somebody's close relative recently passed away, for example, blunt advice would not be welcome.

Truth is always good----but truth presented in a way which doesn't belittle the person.

Not everything that is "logical" is necessarily "true."

Yes, it happens to me too.

I'm sorry you've had to experience this.

It's not a good feeling at all.

But: "consider the source." That person who screams at you might have a distorted sense of reality at the moment you are giving the advice. It's not "you."

In many cases, people who lash out in this way think about it a little bit, then realize that they were lashing out for no good reason.

Often, if you don't argue back, you will receive an apology after the person has reflected for a little while.

I don't argue back, even if sometimes that takes quite a bit of effort lol. I wasn't really talking about giving advice - more like when you post something factual and someone (not the OP) shows up out of nowhere and starts throwing accusations at various participants in the discussion.

Sometimes people have a good reason to lash out, but they seem to aim it at the wrong person.

In all honesty, there are a few people who act this way regularly (not towards me) and I've never seen them apologise. I believe it's a problem if they don't realise what they do is not ok and keep doing it.

I believe such a person, who lashes out incorrectly, should be aware that he/she is incorrect.

I'm not going to stand here and be attacked for an incorrect reason. I will let the person know, and prove that it is incorrect.

If the person persists in this "line of attack," I might conclude that this person is a troll.

My less emotinal mind triggers my own more emotional mind, than other else's or other else triggering mine.


It's annoying and downright absurd.
Quite why I don't want the emotional stuff too much on myself and would rather go straight to action and thinking. Simply point A to point B, problem then solution. Nothing in between.
Unfortunately, my thoughts and will says and do otherwise.

This is quite why I do a lot of inner work. And when I resolve the deep seated issues, my own processes would be smoother than disorganized with unnecessary steps that involves the ego's meddling.

It's this weird paradox as to where I understand the sensitive ones, being annoyed at them on another, at the same time parts of me would rather suggest to just please calm down and think, or go apathetic that is if worry or conscience does not get caught up on me.

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