Aspie males: were you bullied by females (as an adult)?

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Not in the workplace, but I'm thinking more peers in a non-work social setting, like in university, or shared living, or recreational activities or such...more as a young adult.
I know that as young adults, the more common bullying is sarcasm from other male peers like "oh, you must be scoring all the ladies <insert your name>, such a stud like you!!" or making homophobic slurs... but what about from women?
The only instance I could think of was in uni, some byotch was on to me with hostile remarks like loser and I'm going to die alone because I'm too weird and mentally ill, how I must still be a virgin and she wouldn't have sex with me if I paid her $1000. This was given that I was a decent looking guy of medium height and a humorous personality with a handful of friends (I guess some saw my virtues through the handicap), so I thought of her derisive comments "I really don't give a crap what you think" but she tried to turn others against me, so she was just generally a horrible person. She was ugly inside and out, so I wouldn't have accepted $1000 to sleep with her either LOL.

The trouble with standing up to these female tormentors is that they're basically cowards since they will tend to invoke a male protector, like an ex or a friend or a boyfriend of their friend or whatever, she will cry "victim" for herself and beg the protector to stand up for her & defend her "honour", disturbed women pull this tactic all the time. So it was basically fear of violence by proxy, in the same way that if I had to deal with a male bully who was 6'3 and 250 lbs that was harassing me I'd be reluctant to physically attempt to put him in his place. And if you as a male complain about harassment from a female to any authorities, they are likely to figuratively laugh in your face or give a pat remark like "we'll look into it" but then it could get worse if a devious female turns the tables, again, and makes YOU look like the bad guy. Especially if she conjures up some archetype image of "the dangerous incel loner" and how she's the "normal" one. You have to contend with that institutional bias.

Only one, and only once.  I outranked her, and she ended up with "Extra Military Instruction".

I bet she got really good at peeling potatoes...

I've seen an autistic male friend of mine be bullied at college by girls. In fact he was bullied more by girls than by boys.

So was it verbal & emotional, or did it even get physical?
While physical female-on-male [adult] bullying seems very rare to me, I do recall the instance of Shane Freer, a young man with Aspergers who completely snapped after he stood up to a female who went to far, and got fired from his fast food job - what he did next got him jailed:

https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/933670. ... mcdonalds/

I was in a support group that was an experiment in going co-ed for the feminist majority. One woman was divorced from a co-parent who may well have been an Aspie, from what she told me about her troubles with him. This was before we'd heard of AS, but I suspect that she eventually took out her irritations with him on me. My ex spent much of her time on misplaced revenge.
The group went well for years, and since my mother was very "liberated" and I'd never been a pig, I felt like I'd finally found a place I belonged. Then, my landlady accidentally set off a huge crisis, and my attempts to get her to act more carefully and legally in future offended her. I suspect that she managed to re-kindle all the old slanders from my ex, and found it easy to subvert even my support group. Women seem to swarm like hornets, stinging anyone who was recently stung again.
That was 14 years ago, and I moved 1,000.4 miles away within a year to a totally different situation, but I've never recovered.

I can't remember as it happened a long time ago now. But I know that it was usually his girlfriends who bullied him. He seemed to attract the wrong girls, and they stringed him along then ganged up on him, calling him mean things and threatening to beat him up (although they never did). Other girls just made fun of him. I think one of them tripped him up and threw stuff at him as he fell to the ground. f*****g b*****s.

This may not answer the title of this thread properly but when I was in high school I was actually more afraid of female bullies than I was male bullies. If I was bullied by boys it was usually all stupidness, but girl bullies were very good at really hurting your feelings, making you feel bad about yourself, making you feel lonely and useless, and they would step right on your toes and yell a load of profanity right in your face.

Yes, kindness and clumsiness may be a combo that provokes such malicious behavior in some people.

Once in a shared university residence there were two female flatmates who tried to get under my skin. To avoid conflict and agro i moved out a few weeks later.

At work i have worked with women mostly the last six years. There has never been any aggressive bullying but in more subtle ways there has. Stuff like ignoring you, being overly critical and complaining to the boss.

I don't want to sound resentful to women. The worst bullies in my life have still been men.