Perfectionist?

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I have always struggled with perfectionism and it has been really bad lately. I recently read on a few sites that people on the spectrum often struggle with it. Is that true? Does anyone on here struggle with perfectionism?

Yep. I torture myself over every little thing.

Definitely. I feel like I'm constantly asking myself "Was that the perfect thing to say?" "Was that the perfect way to acknowledge someone as I passed them?" "Is this the perfect thing for me to be doing right now?" ad nauseum, not consciously necessarily, but when I try to get to the bottom of why I'm feeling anxious and stressed, this usually seems to be what I come to.

I'm working on reminding myself that there's no such thing as perfect a lot of the time, that it's ok to do things differently than other people, that I do good even when it's not perfect, etc., but it's hard.

Perfect is the enemy of good.

Yes

Yes, but I think it's due to nothing ever being good enough for my parents when I was a child. I had things I wanted to do in the future, namely going to college and becoming a veterinarian; but my mom would always tell me I couldn't for various reasons. One of them being I didn't try hard enough. If I got perfect scores, I was more than trying hard enough. Turns out I have dyscalculia. If my mom had got that looked into and got me tutoring maybe she wouldn't have turned me into a perfectionist.

I am a perfectionist but because I have an INTJ personality type, I limit the degree in order to focus on achieving goals. As someone else said:
"A true INTJ would know that perfection is impossible, and the compulsion toward seeking it is itself an imperfection. Real perfection is balance."

Yes, as noted by my wife and manager.

Yes. I'm not where as bad as I was when I was younger though. These days I can go "good enough" and leave it. But as a little kid I'd have melt downs if I couldn't get it as perfect as I had it in my head.

Not me. With standard, yes.
Perfect? Likely never, both internally and more so externally.

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I think part of it is my childhood and always being told I was perfect and wanting to live up to that. But also I have been that way since I was a toddler. Lately I my anxiety has been super high and it is causing me to not be "perfect" in school. Which in turn is causing more anxiety. It's an on going cycle. Aaaaaahhhh.

I am definitely a perfectionist. I am a lackadaisical perfectionist, though. I cannot finish anything because I am too caught up in my ideas not matching the reality of my executions. I am a very self-sabotaging perfectionist. I don't want to even start something if I know I am not going to finish it any more, so I have blocked myself off from so many things. It is a terrible way to live. I kinda hate being a perfectionist. But when I create something that people ooh and ahh over after I've put my all into it, then it's kinda worth it. I need order! Everything must make sense! This is why I can't do religion!

Yes.

I'm not a perfectionist but I feel anxious about things left half done or incomplete.

Yes, all my life. I'm more aware of it now and therefore manage it a bit better than in the past. Lately the struggle is most often about recognizing the subtler ways it pervades my life.

I really need to learn to calm down on the whole perfection thing. Its bad! It causes me too much unneeded stress. Anyone have any ways they deal with it?