Went out for drink and got bored

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I have mentioned on previous threads about jealousy over other peoples' social lives drinking and partying. I remember going out for a drink in some local pubs with my sister and some school friends and after a while we ended up chatting in the local park and one of the friends got rather drunk and I remember the feeling of boredom and eventually we went home and was glad we went after that. I haven't been out like that since. If I have had this experience then why do I still have this envy of seeing other people having a good time socialising in a bar, pub or wherever when that night I found it boring ? I just think what's the problem and what's the complaining about ? Have I missed out from it since ? I'm not someone who gets no enjoyment from a drink and socialising, I do like to socialise, but I found that night boring.

What things do you like to do?

Maybe list a few so we know where we are at.

Now you know: getting drunk is not the key to happiness...nor to “social success.”

1 - I do like read, watch documentaries, comedies and have some time in trying to concentrate on writing a book.
2 - I do like to go out on my own to my local towns and places a few miles away to search round charity shops for any good stuff, sometimes I've been with people only family not friends as I have few anyway I don't particularly they want to do the stuff I do.
3 - I do like to have a alcoholic drink or two in a nice place somewhere but never on my own as I just think its pointless if you are not with anyone to chat to in a bar. I have only been with family and not with few friends since that day I mentioned.
4 - I do like to do activities like bowling or swimming but not done it for a while as I still think its quite a social activity and I haven't bothered to go on my own.
5 - I like visiting places and sights but only with family so far to Krakow in Poland, Rome, and Berlin never on my own again as it doesn't seem enjoyable on your own.

Despite having doing these things even when I have been with family, seeing other people doing the things I've been doing with friends from school, work, uni or wherever still makes me envy them because of there social lives and think they are better than me and more grown up than me because they didn't go with mum and dad. I don't know if I struggle to appreciate and acknowledge and be happy for the stuff that I've done without a group of close friends because jealousy boils over and feel like I'm less empathetic to others.

I think partying and drinking are boring.

I don’t know how people do it every weekend. It’s not interesting.

There you go. Now that you know that drinking at a bar isn't all that it's cracked up to be, you might want to stay home and do something you enjoy while enjoying a drink.

At any given time, the vast majority of people are not in drinking establishments, and for once, I agree with their taste. Driving Taxi, I met many people going home from pubs, and they are quite boring as a group, except when they are alarming.

For my 21st birthday I went on a "girly" holiday to the Isle of Wight, with my grandmother, my mother and 2 aunties. Nobody cared that I didn't go with friends. To me, my family ARE my friends. We had a great time, and no drinking was involved. It was just full of shopping, visiting places, traveling around the island on a coach, eating lovely meals, and listening to old 60s and 70s music at night with fun games like bingo and quizzes. It was great.

The publife isn't for me, there's many other ways to have a social life.