Talking Over You.

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Anyone get professional people (Hospital staff/carers etc) talking over them as if they are not there or as if it is assumed that one is thick?

When my ex. girlfriend was diagnosed with aspergers, she said that from that point on, it would happen often and she would feel like waving in front of their face and say "Yoohoo. I am here!" She said she was annoyed when they did that. It was one of her pet hates.

Something that I used to get when a child was adults who talk to you as if you are a baby when you are way in advance of their intellect (Even as a young child!) I would hate the pretence to it. I would look at my mother to say "Is this lady mentally ok? Should she be speaking to me at all?"

I've heard that 'talking over people' can be an aspie trait . It seems I do it , but I'm not aware of doing it .

I've gotten that sort of thing all my life, not just from professionals from but anybody. It used to just infuriate me when I was younger. Doesn't seem to happen as much now that I'm old, though - maybe people assume my deficits are due to age, and so they treat me with more courtesy.

Yep, happens all the time to me.

I find that its because,
1. Im quiet in general because when I get a little loud the tone of my voice makes everyone think im being agressive towards them.
2. NT's are used to just rambling crap and having to be louder than everyone else so they can keep rambling their crap, whether anyone is listening to them or not.
3. Quite a lot of people dont have the mental ability to hold a lengthy conversation and return to previous points, so they tend to reply almost immediately to whats being said, which naturally steers the conversation in other directions, including away from what you may have wanted to say.

As to having people talk 'down' to me or like im not there, yep, that definitely happens once people know about my diagnosis. Sometimes its handy, sometimes I let the NT's do everything for me because they offered because they think I can't do it myself. Sometimes its really irritating to have people talk for you about you, but its also an interesting way of gaining someone else's perspective of you.

Occasionally if im tired and in a mood and they start babying me I'll just stare them in the eyes, say 'ok then' and walk away.