Asperger's Funeral

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I been thinking a lot about this since getting sick and I know if I was to die in the near future my funeral would be pretty Barron with not a lot of people showing up because I have maybe two close friends and that is about it. I have a family who basically wanted nothing to do with me. So I was wondering when an aspie dies are they pretty much forgotten because we don't have the friends or the social contacts that other people have. Is it almost like we never existed?

I mean since we can struggle socially, it's certainly possible our funerals may have less people don't think we'd be totally forgotten though.

Guess I have never specifically considered that, I think it is more likely if they've outlived everyone they've ever known and they're homeless or something like that. But even then with the advances of tracking DNA even that person's identity could be found and someone may remember them or at least it could be possible to find out who they were.

I plan to donate my body to science when my time comes, but haven't really thought about the funeral part.

I dislike funerals and don't want a grave or ceremony. I actually put very precise instructions about this in my will.

I guess what you're really concerned about is loneliness and loneliness hurts when you're alive, when you'll be dead it won't matter anymore.

I don't mean to sound harsh here, but the fact is that unless you're famous in some way that survive the passage of time, you will be forgotten fairly soon, same as everyone else. Sure, family and friends will remember you, but they too will pass. And then there the memory ends.
I don't care about for my own sake, but it does sadden me quite a bit that other family members won't be remembered for longer or even have their genes passed on. They are too good to be forgotten
Apparently Jews have a saying: You die twice. The first time is when your heart stops beating, the second time is when your name is spoken or thought for the last time.
I kinda like that bittersweet saying, it's both beautiful and sad.

Welcome to WP Playingvideogames

I guess the real question is when we are dead, will we really care if others remember us or not? But enjoy the time you have as much as you can and cherish the two friends that you have. You don't need a lot of close relationships. Two is wonderful. It is the quality of relationships that you are able to have that matters, not the number of relationships you have. If you leave a legacy with two people, that is just as valuable as if you leave one with millions.

I personally don't care if I even have a funeral. Whether it be just the priest and the undertaker or even if my body was lost or buried in a mass grave - I know there will be rejoicing in heaven when I'm welcomed home, and that's all that matters.

There is a God who made and sees you. You will never be forgotten.

A funeral is really for the people who are left.

The person in the box at the front probably doesn't care much, except for whatever advance wishes they have.

Personally, I plan to be cremated or composted.

My version of an ideal aspie funeral, then, is an urn on a table and a few close friends holding a wake. The church and the hundred mourners need not spend their time on my account

Sorry you have been sick.

I will live on in the "ripples" I started, and possibly in a different form of matter or spirit.

My ASD-like mom now has 2-3 close friends and that's all ---- and I know that suits her. I can see it both ways for my funeral. If I pass soon and my family were to "advertise" my funeral, there'd probably be a bunch of folks (I am an extroverted ASD so everyone "knows" me), more so for curiosity than that they felt a close connection (I do, but realize NTs would require more frequent communication to feel connection). If I pass much later, there'd probably not be many in attendance at all (as my social circle shrinks) and that's ok with me. Or maybe I'll be the little old lady who spends all day walking back and forth from home to the library, greeting everyone and then...

There was a man up in a mountain town near here, kept to himself, had not a single friend or family member, but was kind and was often in town --- most of the town came out to his funeral. So for him it was about something other than close connection. Unbeknownst to the attendees beforehand, he had his inheritance divided among those that attended his funeral. From beyond the grave he was kind to those that were kind.

Ripples...

^^^^
This

I would expect my family at mine nobody else.

As for WP if I know I am terminal I will tell you as much in advance as I can and will give a thank you/farewell post. This farewell post would probably not be my last post but since one never knows exactly when the end will happen or when I would become too incapacitated to post best to get the goodbyes out of the way. If I die suddenly obviously my posts would stop suddenly.

"Is it almost like we never existed?" I know that might be a somber thought to ponder, but keep in mind that for nearly everyone, within 3-4 generations, it's as if we all never existed to those who would be living at that time. One thing that we have in the present age that no previous generation had is the internet. Even forums like this. You can live on and be remembered by what you write and how you express who you are. Take heart and don't be discouraged!

The song Eleanor Rigby is about forgotten lonely people and features her funeral that nobody came to

I'm going out in a macabre Catholic funeral, the kind they don't have any more.

There will be an unvarnished wood box with the lid nailed on...and I believe one day I want to make my own box. They can bury me in something plain. The hole will be the conventional six-foot variety, dug by people and not by a tractor shovel. There will either be an organ played or there will be no music...and at the graveyard there is going to be no printed program, folding chair, anything. Not even flowers. The color theme will be black. Hearse is optional.

If anyone shows, nice. If they don't show, have fun at home. I just hope people pray, and that I can (if I make it to heaven by Providence) do something good from up there...

but that funeral is not going to give the directors a bunch of money and waste, and it won't be the Protestant-looking funeral that people seem to be having nowadays. I want to die with impeccable taste and great austerity.

I have decided when i die i would like my remains to be sent into space.

What those remains are (ashes or a physical corpse) will depend on the cost of launch per kg.

You'll all know when i die, the launch will make the news

When I die, I want my ashes to be used to make a concrete reef. The reef would be lowered into the sea where it could develop into being a real reef. The reef would be environmentally friendly.

It's even in the Bible - Ecclesiastes 1:11
No one remembers the former generations,
and even those yet to come
will not be remembered
by those who follow them.