ways to safely release from a rage

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I have had a very frustrating 2 hours on the phone dealing with vocal phone menus, and at one point I got stuck in a loop. Long story short, I built myself into a rage, and I need to figure out a way to release this energy.

I keep a baseball bat in the car for situations like this. Not to use on people, or peoples belongings, but instead to go beat up a tree in the middle of the forest where nobody can hear me. I have really, really, really bad balance and it is to windy for me to go outside today.

Any suggestions on ways to release?

Poor tree.

Sorry, couldn't resist that. Yes it's sensible to beat something up that won't damage, like a tree or a rock, rather than a person, animal or belonging.
I would go to the woods and beat up a tree when I get angry, but where I live there is always someone about and they'll probably see me and call the ambulance to cart me away in white coats.

But another way to release anger is to cry, or to even post an angry post about yourself on WP. That always releases negative emotions with me.

Around my neighborhood there are lots of tree stumps. You could make some money removing them!

What always worked for me is practising some sport/working out or any intense/taxing physical activity. If I push myself hard enough, the body takes over and there's not much room left for thoughts and emotions. Leaves you exhausted physically but refreshed mentally.

I used to have unhealthy ways to deal with it: I'd scream or punch, kick, claw, or bang my head against something... it has to be a physical release. I'd recommend not letting it get that far and just throwing, hitting, or kicking something that isn't yourself or doesn't harm yourself or anyone around you. That's what I do. It's a good idea about the bat and going far away from people to release it. Since it's windy, definitely don't risk hurting yourself. Maybe find an empty room to stomp or throw something unbreakable, punch something squishy like a couch or bed, and scream into your hands or a pillow. The punching the bed while screaming or throwing something or breaking something that doesn't matter much (like a pen or a box or papers that don't matter) is always helpful.

I have a punching bag in the cellar for this purpose. Works great but I sometimes get grief for the noise I cause. I should move it so it's not under a bedroom since I'm usual in a rage late in the evening.

I used to kick my bedroom door when I had an outburst, which damaged the door. But it was the only way to really release anger, and the door was hollow so I didn't hurt my feet by doing it.

Now I release anger by crying. I cry and cry until I feel like I'm calming down. So nobody gets hurt and nothing gets damaged.

I threw a bowl at the floor once.
It bounced and went through the front of a glass display case... which I hadn’t anticipated.

I avoid getting to that stage by listening to death metal until I feel better: but that is an acquired taste!
(Usually after my wife brings it to my attention that I’m being especially uncommunicative today)

I do angry music too sometimes.

Yeah: helps externalise before blowing up.
Like an emotional safety valve.

I do Qi Gong. It is very relaxing and can lower your anxiety. It always picks up my mood.

Overeat some ice cream? Run your face under cold water? Lie under a pile of blankets, dictionaries, anything that provides pressure?

I know this is a little late, but thanks everybody for the responses. Music... You know, that is one of the ways I used to release angry energy before I knew I was autistic. Very loud music. Years ago I got in trouble many, many times for my music being to loud. I think I need to go back in time and remember other ways I used to deal with my anger.