Why do I get embarrassed so easily?

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It is said a lot here that a lot of Aspies don't get so embarrassed so easily or not at all, but I'm the opposite. I get embarrassed an awful lot, even in front of my family. I can't sing in front of anyone, people often encourage me to sing along to a song on the radio or something, but I shy away from it. Once I asked my mum what a song I liked was called, and she said, ''hmm, sing it to me'', and I had to say no because singing in front of people just makes me embarrassed for some reason.

Also with bodily functions like burping, farting and stomach gurgling. I get angrily embarrassed if somebody hears my stomach gurgling or something. And when I get hungry sometimes my stomach gurgles quite loudly and makes really strange noises and once it was so loud that it could be heard across a small shop because a few people looked up as if to say ''whatever's that loud noise??'' and I felt so embarrassed that I had to leave the shop (and get something to eat).

Funnily enough, I don't get embarrassed at talking about periods. But when I was a teenager I used to get embarrassed about telling people I had period pains. Now I don't get embarrassed of saying that at all, but when people say ''soothe it by rubbing it'' OH MY GOD I get so embarrassed. I never even touch my tummy, I just get embarrassed to see other people rubbing their tummy so I do myself too.

Is this weird? Does anyone else get embarrassed over small things? Or is it normal in some people, or is it linked to Social Phobia or being an Aspie and thinking a little narrow to others?

Ive always been easily embarrassed. Even worse I have a very very sensative blush reflex. I can even make myself blush by thinking back to embarrassing incidents in the past. I can sing along to a song on the radio in the car or whatever, but karaoke or any sort of activity where I have to stand up in front of people and perform in any way is a definite no go. Even if ive had a lot to drink I still cant force myself to do it.

People have told me to just relax and forget about myself when I get embarrassed, but its just impossible for me to do that. Im too hyper aware of how I might seem to other people. I worry more about what they think about me privately than what people say about me out loud.

It got so bad that at one point I was contemplating getting a sympathectomy (where they clamp two nerves in your chest, which stops you blushing and sweating in the facial region permanently), the doctor wouldnt allow it though. I guess thats not such a bad thing though, with the amount of horrible side effects that procedure can create. I just have to live with it.

I worry that I'm screwing something up. It's like I know I COULD be doing something wrong, but I don't know what it is, and thus I get embarrassed because I realize I went too far and it's too late. I don't know what it is though so then I spend a long time trying to figure it out.

Yer but it sometimes even affects my emotions. For example, if I'm feeling irritable or unhappy, I kind of get embarrassed to appear happy to my family. I like my true feelings shown.

I don't get so embarrassed with my friends over the same thing as I do with my family, probably because my friends haven't known me as long as my family have, so they see me in a different light. But it's strange though because I don't feel embarrassed to have an outburst in front of my closer relatives but I would feel deeply ashamed if I had an outburst in front of any of my friends (or not-so-close relatives), so I seem to have the ability to avoid having an outburst in front of friends (but don't seem to have that ability when in front of my close relatives. They get offended when they know this, but I don't know how to explain to them why I have outbursts in front of them but not in front of friends).

We already attract a lot of unnecessary attention, embarrassing situations just make it worse.

I get embarrassed easily, even more so when I was younger.

I had the same problem for a long time and still kind of do today. It's as if my blood starts to boil over a minor incident and I feel like I'm going to explode. It was particularly awful in high school and it lead to some fights with other guys every now and then.

Eventually though, I figured out the root cause (for me at least) was worrying way too much about what people thought of me. I do think everyone casts some sort of initial judgment on someone when they first interact with each other. The key is learning not to care, and the way I came about that was coming to the conclusion that every single person, AS or NT, has their crap to deal with. Nobody is perfect, and embracing both the good and bad in you is the first step towards gaining the confidence to help you through life.

That's just me though. Every person has their own method of dealing with life's struggles. I do believe you can learn to temper your emotions if you truly commit to it.

That sounds alot like me. I feel embarrassed when my name would get called (when I was attending school), using the computer in an area others were occupying (computer lab or classroom), coughing/sneezing, giving presentations, eating around others and when I had to attend the graduation ceremony at my university.

I do tend to get embarrassed easily, although less so now than when I was young. I have learned that many of my experiences are not all that uncommon among the population and that I need to just learn to accept myself as I am. If I can do that, then more people either accept me or don't question me and criticize me too often. Learning to be confident enough to laugh at your minor foibles seems to take care of any teasing that may result from them. It does take time to do though as your natural instinct, after being the target of perpetual ridicule for a long time, is to shrink away when you make a mistake. However, if you can fake confidence long enough, it becomes a part of you. Part of this is in you and part of it is how others react to you. I have found that if you can alter the way others react to you by minimizing your own reactions then it creates a positive feedback loop that ultimately builds a sense of social confidence.

I get embarrassed easily expecially if I mike a mistake on an assighnment. becase I don,t want to look like a dope in front of the teacher.

I get embarrassed really easily too. Especially if I make a mistake when I'm interacting with people, like if I say the wrong thing or if I'm trying to tell a story and it comes out wrong. If I make a mistake it keeps replaying in my mind and I can't get it to stop. It also seems like my voice changes when I'm talking to other people vs when I'm alone or with family. It gets higher, quieter, and rougher when I'm not with people I'm comfortable with, and that just makes me more embarrassed.

Yup - I recently posted on chronic embarrassment, too.

I even get embarrassed to play on the keyboard in front of other people, so nobody really knows how good my talent really is. I only play with one hand, but I control the background rhythms with the other hand, and I remember how each song goes exactly each time I play it, like for example if I play ''Silent Night'' (lasting at least 3 minutes with background rhythm) I know when to press which buttons to control the rhythm each time I play it. But anyway, I may be so good at all that, but I'm still always afraid to show my talent to other people. I keep thinking they might not want to listen to me, or they might get bored half way through, or they might criticise and say, ''that doesn't sound right'' or something.

I think this sensitive to embarrassment thing comes from lack of confidence, I think. If I had more confidence, I think I would be able to do so much more without having these embarrassed feelings holding me back. Here's some more things that I get embarrassed of-

-Telling people about my disability
-Speaking up in group conversations (embarrassed/fear to hear my own voice)
-Being shushed, like when talking when somebody wants to listen to something
-Answering the door to strangers - I lack confidence about myself so much that I feel ashamed of just showing my face

Isn't confidence just: no fear, just do it, it's who you are, and if you don't do it, you get more problems.

You must be my long lost twin. I am very easily embarrassed as well. Stomach gurgle sounds. I cant even use the bathroom without running the faucet so no one can hear. Forget about singing!