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27 Mar 2020, 1:20 pm

I'm finding it depressing to think that I'm gonna stay lonely for my entire life.
Personally, I may stim in front of people, especially when I'm not paying attention, and stimming doesn't go away.
Therefore, I find it hard to believe that I will get married or even have a girlfriend for that matter. Unless that person is also autistic.
My family doesn't (didn't) want to believe I'm autistic, so much that I was never taken to a speech therapist because .. apparently I didn't "like talking to people" and was made fun of by my own family because of my autism.


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27 Mar 2020, 7:27 pm

latency wrote:
I'm finding it depressing to think that I'm gonna stay lonely for my entire life.
Personally, I may stim in front of people, especially when I'm not paying attention, and stimming doesn't go away.
Therefore, I find it hard to believe that I will get married or even have a girlfriend for that matter. Unless that person is also autistic.
My family doesn't (didn't) want to believe I'm autistic, so much that I was never taken to a speech therapist because .. apparently I didn't "like talking to people" and was made fun of by my own family because of my autism.

A new autism diagnosis can be depressing because of the emphasis placed on impairments and ending the thought that if you just try hard enough you can be like everybody else. A getting all that negative feedback from your family makes it a lot worse.

At age 20 you still have a lot of maturing and learning and unlearning bad things to do. to do


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27 Mar 2020, 9:50 pm

ASPartOfMe wrote:
latency wrote:
I'm finding it depressing to think that I'm gonna stay lonely for my entire life.
Personally, I may stim in front of people, especially when I'm not paying attention, and stimming doesn't go away.
Therefore, I find it hard to believe that I will get married or even have a girlfriend for that matter. Unless that person is also autistic.
My family doesn't (didn't) want to believe I'm autistic, so much that I was never taken to a speech therapist because .. apparently I didn't "like talking to people" and was made fun of by my own family because of my autism.

A new autism diagnosis can be depressing because of the emphasis placed on impairments and ending the thought that if you just try hard enough you can be like everybody else. A getting all that negative feedback from your family makes it a lot worse.

At age 20 you still have a lot of maturing and learning and unlearning bad things to do. to do


Thanks, I believe that I'm on the aspergers side of the spectrum. 8O
I can mask it.


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Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 120 of 200
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28 Mar 2020, 8:04 am

I stim all the time and am married, there is hope for you yet. But then again, I wasn't married till my 30's