Does anyone have this problem?

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How my brain works when I process things is you say the same thing in two different ways, I think you have said two different things but when I say two different things, people think I said the same thing twice.

This can get people very frustrated with me because they feel they are repeating themselves when to me, they are saying different things and I am trying to understand something and all it takes is for someone to say the right thing for me to understand and I get it. On Reddit someone told me "I pity people in tech support who have to deal with you" and I felt so insulted I blocked them because it was an ableist comment they made. They also claimed I asked the same thing twice and they answered twice, no they did not because I was looking for a specific answer and once I got it, I thanked them and moved on and that was when they were rude.

Sometimes I even have to ask the right questions in a certain way to get a certain answer I am looking for because I do not understand it unless it is said in a specific way. That is just how my mind works. That is also the reason why these open books assignments never worked with me because the questions you are asked at the end of the chapter are not directly from the book. That is the reason why I had problems in school and why I got extra help or I would have been a high school drop out.

I suspect this would also affect my employment because my boss would get frustrated with me and I would never get promoted and I will always be the first one to go when they need to lay off workers. One of my former supervisors described it having to spoonful me words and kept telling me how I needed common sense. I am surprised I was never even fired until the poor economy caught up so the majority of us were let go and we all went for unemployment but when things picked up again, I was never given back my hours so I had to quit.

I sort of get it. You may have noticed when I joined this forum that I kept starting threads on the same subjects but from different angles to get what I was looking for. My deeper inner mind will do that. Keep asking the same questions from many different angles until it finds the logical answers that it is looking for, so I can kind of relate (If I am making sense!)
Sometimes I can keep on asking the same question but from many different angles for many years before I get the answer(s) that I am looking for!

Also, I sometimes need to learn the same thing a couple of times. I learn something but forget it, and need to re-learn it in just a relatively short period of time. (E.g. sometimes as little as a few days). I believenit could be due to anxiety but I'm not sure. Mathematical subjects I find I need to do this with more then other subjects, though my weakest area are languages including English!

In my mind others are vague or conflicting and I am trying to pinpoint them. In my mind, I am obvious and specific, but they don't get it. If I think about my ASD support group... is it different? It's different that if one person asks another person for clarification, it's generally appreciated!! !

One of the many issues I have with words and wording.


From what I can understand, I'm as far as aware of what I try to express.
At the same time, I also know what I'm trying not to express yet this remains unexpressed. Yet also at the same time, not entirely aware that I may express the things I'm not trying to express unless it was brought up or interpreted as such.

And then there's this; not knowing what I'm trying to express or look for specifically, and yet only knowing what I'm not trying to express or look for. It's easier to just say the former in a literal language, except when trying to express specific or supposedly filtered context expressions -- usually separated from the commonly associated themes and terms.

Or that attempted literal expression former is interpreted as anything but literal; which may be why saying two different things yet it meant the same for others.
Of them saying two things means two different things; I tried to remedy this, but that got only worse and made words even more unreliable...

Auditory processing that may distort doesn't help.
Short term and working memory doesn't help.
Slower if not sometimes blocked word retrieval doesn't help.
Having to deal with too many contexts while it competes with an already limited processing space against other issues doesn't help.

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I didn't really think they had a term for this but they do. It is called Tautology

In literary criticism and rhetoric, a tautology is a statement which repeats an idea, using near-synonymous morphemes, words or phrases, "saying the same thing twice". Tautology and pleonasm are not consistently differentiated in literature. Like pleonasm, tautology is often considered a fault of style when unintentional. Intentional repetition may emphasize a thought or help the listener or reader understand a point. Sometimes logical tautologies like "Boys will be boys" are conflated with language tautologies but a rhetorical tautology is not inherently true.

Generally I don't speak this way but many times I will repeat items because I really want the important things to sink in. So I repeat on purpose.

Intentional repetition of meaning intends to amplify or emphasize a particular, usually significant, fact about what is being discussed. For example, a gift is, by definition, free of charge; using the phrase "free gift" might emphasize that there are no hidden conditions or fine print, be it the expectation of money or reciprocation, or that the gift is being given by volition.

I do a lot of customer service at work. I find it helps to slow down and let the customer talk. Sort of like playing chess in which if I know what the opponent is going to do I can revise my strategy. Sometimes the customer will solve the problem on their own just by talking to themselves! Works for me. I generally don't repeat. I'll try another angle. Or switch to a picture or visual description. I don't need to finish. If someone doesn't get it I'll stop right there.