Do you want friends?

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Let's see how many people on WP actually want friends.

I have a few friends....but a “best friend” is rare in my life.

i had a few, then i moved 1200 miles away


want to make new ones. don't know where

If they are people I enjoy being with yes. I have one really close friend that I an share everything with. I had more in the past, they are the times in my life when I was happiest. I don't seem to make much of an effort to make friends though. I probably should.

Most certainly. If I didn't, I wouldn't have been so miserable.

I don't want friends.
I don't mind friends either.

I have friends. I simply do not look for it nor ignore/deny it.
Having friends do make me happy, I just don't seek them out as if I 'crave' them.
Of course it would be sad if I lose any, but in the end I'd likely wouldn't mind parting ways.
I do not mind any returning friends either. If I have to forgive, and even let one return, that's up to both parties.

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I have only three real friends but I have five work acquaintances that I occasionally speak to outside of work. I normally keep to myself at work because I want to. I just come home and hang out here with my pets and boyfriend. It is lonely at times, but it seems like so much effort to make new friends, especially if they want to go out a lot. It's exhausting. I guess it's finding that happy medium. But yes, I would like to make new friends, especially some that understand what it's like to be neurodiverse and won't want to do things that are draining and crowded. It seems that drinking and partying are what almost everyone in New Orleans wants to do. I'd rather anything else, lol.

I have two good friends and I would be lost without them.

I had a best friend but she stopped talking to me when I told her I didn't like her new tattoo. So that's that.

I have my flatmate who's my ex-partner and we get along well.

She, along with my family, are my friends.

Apart from that, I don't feel a great need for friends.

At times I would like to have friends, it's not sustainable though, not in the typical sense anyway.
Based on my social reserves I dont have enough energy for it to be sustainable regarding other peoples expectations.
That's the constant stumbling block, I prefer these days to use my energy on more reliable outcomes.

I really don't know. Sometimes I want to be by myself all the time and sometimes I want to be with other people but even then, I have zero initiative. Its nearly always them inviting me to stuff rather than the other way around.

Yes, but in small doses. I have a couple friends that are sisters and then a friend I met in college and I don't physically see them a lot but I do text them a fair amount and that is actually pretty good for me.

I have many casual friends/acquaintances but no close friends. Meaning there are people I say hi to in the store and things when I see them, but not people I "hang out" with or go to the movies or things.
I have had close friends before, but we either drifted apart or I put an end to the friendship because they were annoying me.
Sometimes I wish I had friends and knew how to interact like NTs do.
I do almost everything with my mom and my son.

I have a lot of friends now, and a few good friends. I'm fortunate. However, romance will continue to elude me. I may never catch up enough developmentally to ever get married.

I have a lot of acquaintances, some of whom are potential friends, but very few true friends. I used to have friendly relationships with my cousins, but since our grandparents died, we’ve been somewhat scattered. I rarely speak to my brother, and to be honest, if it weren’t for our parents and my niece and nephew, I would be quite happy not having a relationship with him. The problem is that I like his fiancée and would like a friendship with her.

My wife has a lot of female friends and a couple of male friends from her time in the military. I envy her.

Yes, and not just for my convenience, like what some Aspies are known to do. I like to have friends as someone to talk to, to relate to, to do things with, to gossip with and a catch up. Also I like to be there for them, or say if they want to do something but have nobody else to go with, I'll be quite happy to go and support them.

But my friends are mostly non-NTs, as they seem less shallow than NTs my age. I find that if an NT female around my age does give me her phone number and seems keen to meet up for a drink, it becomes one-sided, with me making all the effort and them not sounding very interested.
I know there's this taboo where people only "pretend to be interested just to be kind" but I don't always buy that. I agree that people may say that casually as you pass them at work or whatever, but to give me their number and actually say to stay in touch and arrange to get together for a drink, then you can't blame me for trying. I know people are busy but I can still tell in their texts that they're not really interested, so I can read between the lines, because I can tell the difference between someone who wants to be friends but is genuinely busy, and someone who makes that they're busy as an excuse but what they're really thinking is "bugger off you are not good enough for me".

I do feel depressed whenever I think that no matter how pleasant and friendly I am, NT people seem to still see something off about me and start to ghost me.