PDA: Strategies for dealing with routine changes

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I struggle when I have to come back to work for the first 2 days. There is literally nothing I can do to make things better. The only thing I can do is talk about it to my employer but it doesn't help that much. I can only think clearly by day 3 and can't get any work done until then.

If you have the same problem then what are your strategies

P.s. I'm pretty sure I have PDA.

I completely blank out when there's a change in routine or plans, there's not much I can do but sit there and wait for it to pass and settle into the new routine.

For instance, I always pay my bills at the same time - I get online, I pay my car payment, and then I pay my cell phone bill. A few months back, the cell company's site was down and I was unable to pay it immediately after paying the car bill, so I wound up sitting at my computer zoning out and mentally freaking until the site came back up. It didn't come back up for five hours, so that was a good five hours wasted just sitting at my desk refreshing a broken site over and over.

It's hard to really have any strategies to cope. The thing that SORT OF helps me (but really it only works about a quarter of the time...) is I like to fidget with stim toys like stretchy bracelets or squish balls and those types of things. So, like in the above scenario, I would be freaking out and refreshing the website over and over, but in my other hand I'd have a tangle or something I'm fiddling with. The website is my primary focus and the tangle is this periphery in-the-back-of-my-mind focus. Slowly, I try to shift my mind so that the tangle becomes my primary focus and the website falls into the background. It takes a good half hour sometimes but it's the only thing that really works for me, and even then it's hit or miss

Also I'm not sure what PDA means? All I can think of is "Personal displays of affection" haha