The 10 most vacuous statements

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Obviously, these are NT constructs... but to many of us, they're like the proverbial nails on glass (or blackboard), as we have a certain propensity to detest communication without purpose of exchanging useful or intellectually enriching info...or detest that which isn't benefiting anyone, is "fake", or seems to be trivializing their difficulties.

1. "No problem."

2. "Take your time."

3. "I understand." (even if you haven't experienced the same thing, right??? [sarcasm])

4. "How are you?"

5. "My door is always open."

6. "Please don't hesitate to ask any further questions."

7. "Well, G*d" works in strange ways sometimes." (And this is where I think Nietzsche was an Aspie )

8. "(Oh) Well, you win some, you lose some."

9. "Well, I suppose it would depend on the situation." (Even though I just asked you "what is the average" or the "most typical / common outcome" or some other heuristic, you go politician-speak on me )

10. "Strength is something you choose."

While I realize the underlying intent/effect (subtext) of these is to reduce any hostility, or confrontation, or the speaker getting too involved in the other person's issues, or setting boundaries or what-have-you...they are still banalities as far as I'm concerned...

What's the point of posting an "us vs them" post while explaining how we tend to see certain statements?
What new information or perspective did you intend?

The #2 is not vacuous for me at all, it's exactly what I had to learn to finally find out how to train sports.

Half of those are not vacuous. How is it vacuous to let people know they can take their time or to let people know they can ask questions?

I don't see anything wrong with those statements at all. My idea of a vacuous statement is, "You're lower-functioning than I thought you were." without the person knowing me or how much I'm capable of.

I say most of these and I'm autistic. I don't think it's "vacuous" to attempt to be polite to others/console them, nor that it's an NT thing to do so.