I feel I can never truly connect with myself or others

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Since my states shutdown mid March, it would be safe to assume everyone’s lives were flipped on their heads. For me it started off quite terrible with severe depression and isolation causing chaos internally and externally presented through my autistic shutdowns and meltdowns.
About a month or so ago, I quit my job because my employer could not accommodate my needs. Since then, the already distant relationships I had with friends were slowly but surely beginning to fade.
Here I am now, those ‘friends’ don’t mean much to me for their failed efforts of remaining a relevant loving support system have left me with nothing to even hold on to. I was drawn to forums, chats, and dating apps for human connection. I met someone really interesting about two weeks ago. I’m struggling to not assume they will leave me high and dry like the rest. Struggling to not just quit first. Boundaries are so difficult when they were never taught to you. I’m always so naive and truly believe all people are good. Social paradoxes confused my mind and make me want to isolate again, returning to the same cycle.
I just want a community I can rely on and they can rely on me. I want to be able to tell someone when I’m sad or overjoyed and to be that for others. Sometimes it’s hard to discern what is trauma and what is autism. When does that even make a difference?
Does anyone relate? How do you deal with social anxieties and frustrations? How do you conquer your minds limiting beliefs?

I struggle with this stuff myself so I'm not really in a place to give advice. Hopefully someone else will come along with some helpful ideas for you.

What I can do however, is let you know that it's not just you, and I hear you.

I'm sorry you had to go through all of this and I hope things can get better for you soon.

And here I was, worried that I would not find a tread that I could relate to.

Let's stick to just one line: "Sometimes it’s hard to discern what is trauma and what is autism."
I'd love to have positive emotions when I do the right thing, when I value other people, or when I do something good for myself. But no, I feel good when run away from the world and dream of the world I'd like to live in. I don't know when my confusion with people turned into aversion. It only matters if it prevents me from using my intelligence to overcome what ever limitations my natural wiring has.
"How do you deal with social anxieties?" - Muscles retrain the brain.
"How do you deal with frustrations?" - Its not what the world does to us, its how we interpret and respond to the world.
"How do you conquer your minds limiting beliefs?" - This one has me stumped right now. Best I can say is that a little progress is better than no progress.

Don't give up!

IR