Seeing professionals-preference-on your own or with someone?

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18 Sep 2020, 4:22 am

The physio came to the flat unexpectedly yesterday. He had a look on his face that smacked of 'I've got a right one here, but if I broaden my grin that should do the trick' . He didn't come across as taking the balance/hip and lower back problems at all seriously .

I'd have preferred to have had my stepdaughter with me, as professionals are less prone to being dismissive when she's there. She couldn't be as no notification had been given about the visit.

My stepdaughter has said that part of the problem is that I tend to downplay how things are when asked . That may be true to a degree. Part of that is due to past history of being regarded as 'awkward,demanding and troublesome' for seeking more help and support.
When my stepdaughter's there she'll not hesitate to give a 'no holds barred' account of how things are.

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18 Sep 2020, 4:57 am

I have now learnt to take my Mum in with me if I can because though I am a perfectly intelligent person who can speak ok, I will often go in to see a doctor or a professional and come out not having said anything that I needed to say. It took me two years of doctors visits to ask if I was on the spectrum or not andI was soo frustrated with myself, because every time I went to ask I would clam up with mindblank and have to talk about some other issue to get my mind to work.
In the end I was soo frustrated with myself, I asked my mother to come with me (She did not think I was on the spectrum but our concept of what autism was is different from what we have learnt that it is if that makes sense, but fair play, when I had mindblank, my Mum took over and raised a point I needed to make).
I had expected a YES/NO answer there and then. Actually glad now the doctor did not give one and referred me because it is clear that the doctor did not know the similarity between a shutdown and a meltdown as I was describing an element of a shutdown (I had not heard of shutdowns back then) and asked if it was a meltdown as I knew they were similar somehow in the way they were caused. But understandably a GP is not a specialist so will need to refer one to those who are. (Understandably one can only know so much and doctors already have a huge amount of things they need to know).

Awaiting asessment. Neurodiverse 173/200. Neurotypical 21/200. Empathy 11/80. AQ 39. ... s/shutdown

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