Treatment of High Functioning Vs Lower Functioning on W.P

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Trying hard definitely makes my anxiety worse.

The thing is, I can opt (family privilege & being on ESA) not to deal with people who don't like/hate me.

But part of me tells myself 'that's lying to yourself, go mix with someone who doesn't like you'. So when I'm feeling like that, I seek out trolls, bullies etc.

That doesn't work well for my mental health. I lack the barrier in my brain/boundaries that tells me 'that's just someone's opinion'. So if someone keeps making fun of me, I will believe them. Even now, I've been off an online space for 6 months and I still have at the back of my mind everything my trolls told me.

Better for me to work on finding nicer people to hang around with.

Of course, I only have SA. So generalised anxiety might be different. And I'm not saying 'the cure is to stay in bed all day avoiding everyone online and offline'. I'm saying 'the cure is to try hard with people who are nice'.

Reminds me of a trust exercise at school.

You were meant to fall and let people catch you.

Only I was being bullied at the time so they dropped me on purpose. Taught me nothing about trust.

Metaphorically, a cure for anxiety like mine is - find the people who will be prepared to catch you. And then be brave enough to fall.

I never liked that “falling” game....

Reminds me of a controversial article someone wrote "Anxiety is no excuse to be an as*hole" and it was written by someone with an anxiety disorder. Well that article didn't go well because many people were upset by it and were even attacking the OP by questioning she had anxiety. Eventually the article was deleted and I remember people were reporting it because it was seen as hate speech and ableism. I didn't read it that way, I read it more as people using their anxiety to be abusive and go "oh I have anxiety, deal with it" or using it to just be mean and hurt people with it and go "I have anxiety" or using it to just be bitchy. I am sure if a parent was hitting their kids and calling them names and saying "I have anxiety sir" to anyone who criticizes them and calls them out, no one would buy that excuse. That was how I read the article as anyway.

If you had ambitions of playing professional softball, LeagueGirl, you were probably a better than average player already. Maybe even way above average.

I was lucky if I was good enough to be a reserve on a weekend slow-pitch softball league.

Try harder?

That depends which angle I can actually brute force my way out of a wall and make it...
VS make an effort for new ways around because I cannot break the walls with sheer will of effort -- all for the same outcomes.

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I think what you are trying to communicate is that what worked for you "could" work for others.

However capacity to achieve is also determined by motivation and determination.

It can be an overwhelming effort to motivate one's self if you are not in the right frame of mind due to competing factors such as comorbidities, family and personal circumstances.