greenmm37 wrote:
Hello everyone -
I was wondering for those of you who are 20+ who live at home with parents, how do you cope with family troubles that don't involve you?
My parents fight off and on and right now they are having a big 'fight.' Basically my dad thinks my mom is keeping secrets from him and won't talk to her at all and now won't tell her where he's going or what he's doing...and I know she doesn't tell him everything (I'm certain she's not cheating on him, this is more about politics or sports things) because he is very judgemental to her about what she likes. Every day I watch my mom basically grovel for my dad's affection, him repeatedly treat her poorly, then blame her for it. I feel stuck in the middle of this every single day.
My question is - does anyone have experience with this? Do you have advice for removing yourself from the situation? I unfortunately provide myself as a sounding board for my mom since she won't talk to anyone else about it and I want her to not feel so alone. I feel very hostile towards my dad a lot but he's still affectionate towards me so it's hard. I guess that's why I can't just ignore it because my family is very...isolated? We don't do much with others and always sit down for dinner together so there's always discomfort when they're fighting like this.
Sorry - this may be more of a vent post but advice is welcome.
Well, if the fighting itself is bothering you my advice would be to take a walk. As for how to repair your parents marriage i don't know if there's anything you can do maybe suggest they go to marriage counseling?
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12 Oct 2020, 8:27 am
