Muddled thinking

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Is it standard aspie brain to need an extra second or 2 to understand or react ?

I feel like I need to take something in fully to get it, like when someone is telling me something the info I am given is a little jumbled and out of order, and my brain needs to piece it together into a structure I can understand before it sinks in. Doesnt take long, just an extra second or 2.

Anyone else?

Yep, sounds about right.

Yes. Especially when a lot is going on.

*raises hand* me too. Though it might take me more than a second or two. I think I have a five to ten second delay.

Yes, this is common with me too, but sometimes more than a few seconds. Sometimes I have to tell people, let me think about that and get back to you.

For posts on WP, sometimes it takes hours or days to sink in. Makes me wonder what I have missed IRL conversations.

Yes.
And it's frustrating.

It's one of many I observed too often...



There are studies that even milliseconds lags of processing are already disastrous in language (hearing seems most prominent) and socialization.

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Yup, that sounds familiar. It's why I lose all arguments.

Certainly I often wish people would slow down a bit when they talk to me. I also often wish they'd use a bit more precision and attend better to clarity. Not that I think it's all their fault. It's possible to get a lot of what they say from the context, and I think I find it more difficult to catch the context, I more focus on their words as if they were spoken in complete isolation from anything else. I think the causes are many.

There's a plausible argument that a lot of people are simply poor communicators. Certainly some people are much clearer to me than others. I had a strongly academic education and working environment, which I think shaped my expectations of communication, so I grew up putting a lot of the comprehension problems down to the fact that so many people just don't have a great command of language or scientifically-structured thinking.

Another strand of the problem is that I often get hung up on some or other anomaly in what they say, and once that's happened I tend to feel I can't take in any more until I've cleared up the mystery of the anomaly. I can't just gloss over it if they seem to have made a mistake or said something slightly wrong or something I don't quite understand. So they whole input process stops.

I have that problem, I think mine is a kind of auditory processing delay.
Although sometimes it's not just a delay, sometimes I'm so busy trying to work out the meaning of the first thing someone says that I don't hear anything after that. It's like my brain just doesn't take it in.
It's embarrassing because I have to keep asking people to repeat themselves.