Clueless2017 wrote:
He appreciates me fully. His ex-wife caused him to have a nervous breakdown in the past, and she wasn't on the spectrum. She's just a selfish person who couldn't keep a relationship together.
My boyfriend is understanding and everything, but if something is easy to him he thinks it is easy to everyone else too. Like when I had an appointment at a rather large hospital earlier this year, the hospital was unfamiliar to me because I'd never been there, and he'd been there a few times so knew his way around but he didn't go with me because he told me that it's easy. But the hospital had 3 or 4 huge buildings on its premises, and I couldn't find my way around and I got completely lost. I asked several people but they seemed to give me a different direction every time and I kept ending up in the wrong building. So I phoned my boyfriend for help, and we ended up having an argument over the phone. He couldn't seem to put himself into my shoes and think that it may be easy for him but not for someone who has never been there before. After 2 hours I finally found where I was supposed to be. When he collected me, he was very mad. I told him that I'm not so good with directions in unfamiliar places, but all he kept saying was that it's easy. I just said, "for
you perhaps, you've been there a number of times before, I haven't." But he just couldn't grasp the fact that the hospital is like a massive maze when you don't know where to go and it wasn't clearly signed. Whenever I asked a staff member they didn't seem very helpful and strangely some of them didn't even know themselves. But my boyfriend just expected me to find it as easy as he does.
I know he was probably also feeling frustrated that I was late to my appointment, but he expressed that in an unhelpful way that made me feel like it was my fault and that I'm an idiot.
And that wasn't the only time we got into an argument because of me being disoriented in a place that was familiar to him. He's not good with computers but I understand that so I don't expect him to know what to do when we have to do something online together. I be patient with him. So he should understand the fact that I am not very good with directions in unfamiliar places. Same difference.
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