Starting Conversations

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Do you ever find yourself in a situation where there is a group of you and no one is talking and the only one who can start a conversation is you. I experienced that today I went to the Cinema this morning to see Pirates Of The Carabean 3 and on the way back it was silence in the car and the only person who started any conversation was me

lol, when I realize it's waiting on me, that's when I say I gotta go

I hate starting conversations, so I never do it.
Even on MSN I just wait till people talk to me.

Gah, I really, really dislike those situations, and they always happen inside a car, where there's no escape (except through the roll-down window, but that route isn't so practical while on a highway).

When it's one on one, I always try to think of something about that person that's different than me, and ask how it came about. For example, when visiting a friend across the country on the east coast and having a moment traveling only with his father (as did happen for me a few weeks ago), I knew he used to be my mom's friend at home 3,000 miles away, so I asked "how long have you lived around here?" or something like that. It worked. My one-question minimum requirement was fulfilled.

When two or more people are riding in a car without saying anything, it doesn't mean they're hostile one way or another. It doesn't mean they have nothing to say to each other. It means they're comfortable being in the same room without having to talk. In fact, it's a sign of a good friendship or relationship when people can be in the same room (or car) without talking the whole time.

I'm the same. I can only start conversations with people I know fairly well.

I always had a hard time starting conversations unless it was about meerkats or Lion King or something and people basicaly told me they were tired of hearing about those and to basicaly shut up. I really had no reason to start a conversation then. I even have a hard time keeping them and when people talk to me I just say things to make them think I'm listining such as "uh huh".

i dont even bother. whats the point. no-one aint got anything worth saying. and that includes me. so who gives a s**t.

no i really dont start any conversations unless im under the influence. wich i wont be doing anymore, so now i'll really never talk

I can't start a conversation to save my life. I wait for the other person to talk first.

I can start conversations but i find it really difficult.

...and you just started another one...

I'm not even good at starting them here, even though I have a lot of questions I'd like input with - I think of something to say and then I don't have the clarity of mind to put it into words...
So good for you to be able to start conversations

This is usually the situation where I will crack a joke. Whether the other people laugh or not is another matter.

I find it a lot easier to try and come up with funny things (or just weird things, they just come out and people sometimes find it really funny) than to try and have 'social' conversation.

That's something I really hate, social chit chat. I really do have an interest in other people and their lives, but it's just so boring to talk about "what i did today". I like to talk about moral or ethical dilemmas people find themselves in, and I think people like the advice I give, even if it's a bit out there. Maybe it's the skill of approaching a problem from a different angle?

I can't start conversations with strangers, but I have no trouble initiating a conversation with someone I know well. My friend(s) don't mind if I skip the small talk and go straight to serious conversation, they're used to that.

I do have trouble making conversations fluid. When someone states a personal fact (like "I have my own apartment now!") I usually stay silent. Sometimes I ask a few questions, but I run out of them quickly. Sometimes they repeat what they said because they thought I wasn't listening, but I do listen and memorize what they say.

If I start a conversation because I feel pressured to I usually end up saying something stupid, or that the other person seems to find stupid, and then I wish I hadn't bothered. Sometimes it's OK. At work I can usually start a convo about animals because that's what we're all there for and it's appropriate.

Same here!