Years ago I remember I faced conflict within a group......

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Maybe wasting my time even writing this silly event that happened to me. Anyway I was in my mid twenties and it was an art course which wasnt even very good, very poor but I continued. I'm a independent person in general and genuine, after making some human mistakes. In second term I was put in a group and from then i felt an uncomfortable vibe with them, like I would get fakeness from one of them and constant glares from another. I wanted to change groups but my tutor said nobody is allowed too.. In general I wasnt enjoying the course, my experience living in a new place alone, was so isolating, it was depressing at times. Anyway I knew I was being gosspied about but didnt take it personally and just got on with it. Then another term came and we finished film our project, I made a little mistake and some of them laughed loudly, I didnt respond though as it wasn't worth it. Then I had a tutorial with my tutor the same day and I found out a couple of them got my tutor to tell them I was autistic and they told my tutor I told them I was, in the beginning of project. How sad is that? This was behind my back, I told him I said nothing of the sort and he should not label my autism as it was never a big deal, it does not define me. I just thought I should tell him. The people were pretty much outcasts themselves and some in they twenties and I believe it was the immaturity thing. I had a chance to fully report them but I didnt and didnt say anything to them. Apart from I nodded and glared back to one of them and they stopped after that. The tutor must of said someone to them after because they were quiet after that lol. People like that dont change I guess. Very analytical this is but was it bullying or its life, that happens or it was a misunderstanding or jealously ? Lots of stuff has happened to me but i dont know why I remember this lol.

It’s just your luck. It was a crap class.

The question is: how are things NOW?

Your right about that.

I am being positive, what else can I do. I think since losing my job and other things depression has creeping
up and that's why thoughts from stupid events like this are coming back.

I know things will improve.

I truly hope things will get better for you.

Sorry for your job loss. I hope you get another one soon.

Your attitude that “the past is the past” certainly helps.

People should never be a slave to their pasts.

I have had a kind of repeat thing happening in my past when I was part of teams. I would always be operating on the outside for the benefit of the team if that makes sense? I was in the team but not part of the team. All would go fine for the first week or the first few weeks and then the team would sideline me UNLESS it was a situation where they needed me for my specific tallents and skills.

I hope that things continue to get better for you.