We all lie?

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This is awesome. One of my new favorite autistic YouTubers.

Everybody lies.  The question then becomes, "What is each one willing to lie about?"

Of course everyone lies..

White lies aren't so bad as they usually don't hurt anybody with their intention. However I used to lie by telling others what I thought they wanted to hear and it completely didn't end well.

Being mindful and respectful to myself and others by telling the truth seems to make me feel more judged by others.. not sure if there's any relation to this however..

Yeah, we all do it, but some people have a hard time even being honest with themselves: they don't like who they are...

I tend to be brutally honest, and that makes people very uncomfortable most of the time, so lately I've been trying to just agree and say yes this can be a bit of a struggle for me, but not impossible.

I see people lie all the time, scheming to get ahead, and many times it comes back to bite them, or worse yet, their stupid plan begins to envelope innocent people too...

DIVAIR

As a kid, I liked to see what would happen if I gave things besides the expected answer to questions, so I would lie to find out.

I try to give answers that will please people, but sometimes if I’m not thinking about it I don’t realize when someone would take something personally (for example, if asked if an item of clothing somehow looked bad on someone and they asked for my opinion, I might be honest, because in my mind, I’m saying the clothing is unflattering, not that the person is fat or ugly or anything). Also when not directly asked, if I don’t have something nice to say, I just don’t say anything.

When I was in school I would sometimes lie about having finished my homework, intending on doing it later but not wanting my parents to make me do it before doing something else, and when I was in college there was someone who kept wanting me to attend a church thing with them and I would lie that I had homework to do when I really just didn’t have the energy to do anything social that evening. I’ll lie that everything is fine when I just don’t want to talk right then (I learned in middle school that when my mom asked how my day was when I got home from school, any answer besides “fine” would immediately be followed by “What was so (insert adjective) about it?” and what I wanted to do was be alone and not have to talk to anyone, so that became my default answer).

Those are really the only lies I’ve deliberately told since I was ten or so. Can’t bring myself to lie about “everything will be okay” or assuring people that things will work out for the best, because to me, that’s a guarantee that can be hurtful and/or have other unintended consequences if it’s wrong. Won’t make promises I know I can’t keep. Don’t want to aid in setting people’s expectations higher than I can meet, they do that well enough without me trying to make myself look good. Basically, I hate taking risks, and doing so by lying is no exception.

I like this guy behind Autistamatic

I like his term the "Autists"
makes us sound like Artists

I don't lie. Never, ever.

I also have trouble using such conventional, comforting "lies" (or at best, wishful thinking). Partly because when people have said such things to me, they've been proven 100% wrong so often that nowadays the phrase "It'll be fine" makes me want to grab an automatic rifle and 5000 cans of corned beef and hide out in a bomb shelter for the next ten years. Also, my empathy (which is set on "manual," but does exist) tells me that many people would prefer either more concrete arguments as to why it'll be fine, or else to not have their genuine fears dismissed as nothing.

Putting on a persona and concealing my true colours for 30 years, is to live a huge and painful lie.