Frustration

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Do you ever get frustrated when it comes to trying to make conversation with Neurotypicals?

I don't cope with it as I often find the conversation is too strained. It literally hurts my head. They either seem to be obsessed with talking about each other or obsessed with talking about themselves in a self obsessed way.

If you try to have an informative conversation about nutrition and health for example you are treated as if you are weird or it becomes all about their personal food preferences and not the science itself.

I don't mind people using a dietary preference as an example if it is relevant but that is not what they are doing. Rather than using a personal example to help them relate etc they simply just want to make it all about them and the science gets forgotten. They are not trying to provide relevant material to the debate from their own personal perspective, they are using it as a excuse to talk about themselves and sell their own dietary virtues.

Does anyone else have the same problem?

my older brother [on the spectrum] related to me a time when he was in an airporter van with an army buddy and a few other passengers, they started chatting amiably about aviation in the army, and while they were doing so, the other people stopped their sports gossip and were in a "shocked silence" - when they finished talking, without missing a beat, the conversation of the others went back to sports.

Not any more.
I very rarely engage in conversations, IRL these days, because of the unpleasant feelings after engaging in conversations.

Yes, I have the same experience. I find most Neurotypicals quite boring to talk to and it's effortful to make a conversation with them. It's easier if they have a strong interest in something that isn't gossip or sport.

I assume they find me equally dull to talk to, and that's fine.