27 Jul 2007, 7:41 am
27 Jul 2007, 8:34 am
ChatBrat wrote:
AEN1408 wrote:
For me it often leads to late comebacks and comments after the conversation was pretty much over.
Yes, Exactly! It's like you are left feeling cheated because you are fully capable of contributing to the conversation given enough time. It's like I want to turn back time and use the comments/comebacks I later thought up so I can prove, "Hey, I can be cool & fun too, ya know!"
The only way I can stop is to sing along with music or watch a movie (with the subtitles on) or talking to someone else. I hate this more than anything because I'll be somwhere and all the sudden I catch myself making hand motions and actually lipping the words instead of keeping it as just thoughts.
Yes, Exactly! It's like you are left feeling cheated because you are fully capable of contributing to the conversation given enough time. It's like I want to turn back time and use the comments/comebacks I later thought up so I can prove, "Hey, I can be cool & fun too, ya know!"
The only way I can stop is to sing along with music or watch a movie (with the subtitles on) or talking to someone else. I hate this more than anything because I'll be somwhere and all the sudden I catch myself making hand motions and actually lipping the words instead of keeping it as just thoughts.
Listening to music helps me too. It gives me new words to run through my head, but disappears quicker than the conversation replay. Probably because the song has less meaning & is just a rythm to deter conversation replay.
I do hand motions & facial expressions while thinking about conversations in public. Sometimes lipping words too. It doesn't bother me too much though - I've always kind of placed it in the category of "talking to yourself".
This site has helped me realize that I should probably be a little more concious of what I do/ act like in public. I always thought I was kind of like a ghost; I'm avoided so clearly people don't even realize I'm there. I can do whatever I want! Not the case!
I hate it when I've already seen the person and I think of what I could have said, or should have said.... that can be a real mental beating. Sometimes someone will tell me to let it go... easier said than done.
I know what you mean. Maybe in time the reflection we have upon our conversations(or lack thereof) will aid in eventual application to future conversations.
Sooner or later we will be able to contribute in a timely manner if enough reflection is given? Just a thought.
This was a great post!!
27 Jul 2007, 9:18 am
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27 Jul 2007, 10:08 am
sax100 wrote:
I used to do this incessantly while I paced back and forth, sometimes while listening to music, and this would take hours out of my day!
I make hand motions and talk out loud, too, when I really get caught up in it. And I have fantasy conversations with people in my head that I go over and over and edit as I do, even knowing these conversations may probably never take place!
OMG.. i do this all the time - i lose hours a day replaying conversations in my head - and then get quite phased out trying to understand the hidden meanings of what people have said during these converstaions, or what the persons body language meant - it drives me insane sometimes, when i can't switch off from it!! !
I make hand motions and talk out loud, too, when I really get caught up in it. And I have fantasy conversations with people in my head that I go over and over and edit as I do, even knowing these conversations may probably never take place!
OMG.. i do this all the time - i lose hours a day replaying conversations in my head - and then get quite phased out trying to understand the hidden meanings of what people have said during these converstaions, or what the persons body language meant - it drives me insane sometimes, when i can't switch off from it!! !
Thanks for replying to my post! Sometimes I think I'm a bit off from everyone else here
I don't know if it's an option for you, but antianxiety meds and/or antidepressants seem to help this if it's really bothering you. Take care!
