anthropologist from mars wonders how humans date each other
With all his money , I take exception to Elon Musk , he is in the prime position to bring awareness to the plights of the Autistic community . But yet have heard nothing of this . It causes me to wonder quit abit about his level of autism. If in fact he actually is . Autistic people DO have good levels of empathy I feel . Yet this man does not appear to?
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I guess you touch on an interesting point whether there are NT women out there who are sufficiently attracted to some qualities in a man that compensate (for them) for other qualities that other NT women might find weird/off putting. Yes there are women like that but (unfortunately) they are hard to find.
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Actually Einstein married twice and cheated on both his wives. Yes he was strange but oddly he was getting a lot of female attention even before he became famous.
also to the genius-level TOM/socially intelligent aspies here, did you learn this by rote or did it come naturally? if the former, did somebody teach you/got it from a book, or what?
It came naturally. I'm generally approached, but if there's someone I wish to date, I will definitely approach. Purely innate, very much instinctive. Has never caused a problem.
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not necessarily look for an autistic woman. Direct, open, honest... definitely not subtle! I scared off many NT I met because of those qualities. I had to approach my (now husband) target , object of my interest after we met for the third time or so and be pretty blatant with him, before the light dawned that I was interested in him... I could see it when he woke up and began to respond. You might be missing signals that are being sent, even though I am being direct... that autism thing gets in the way of reading body language or taking hints. I probably missed lots of "hints" in my dating days. Those relationships would not have worked anyways, I don't do subtle. I miss too much to make that form of communication effective, never healthy for me or others, either. Shared interests are what finally brought us together. Joining groups where you share interests first establishes some commonalities that make conversation and interaction easier. FB groups have worked very well for me with this. Unless your interests are twisted or not at all in the mainstream ( physics or kinky stuff for example) I bet you could find others with stuff in common and move on from there. Best wishes.
"i can't take a hint." too subtle. i have not found anybody who shares my interests. mine are fairly arcane. born on the wrong planet, not the one with the people like myself on it. the one autistic woman i knew was still extremely subtle. not until she drove up to meet me did i get a clue. yes, it has to be that obvious before the comes on in my noggin. too bad i am just not compatible with anybody. ended quickly and badly. that i so disappointed her despite my best efforts, after she went through all that trouble and finally "did all the work" to meet me and establish a relationship, is something that scarred me deeply.
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also to the genius-level TOM/socially intelligent aspies here, did you learn this by rote or did it come naturally? if the former, did somebody teach you/got it from a book, or what?
It came naturally. I'm generally approached, but if there's someone I wish to date, I will definitely approach. Purely innate, very much instinctive. Has never caused a problem.
you are a social genius.
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similar to bill gates, so brutally intelligent that they have absolutely no rapport with mere mortals like the rest of us. autism is irrelevant to them due to their extreme intelligence, it is at worst a nuisance they can summarily swat away like a fly.
also to the genius-level TOM/socially intelligent aspies here, did you learn this by rote or did it come naturally? if the former, did somebody teach you/got it from a book, or what?
It came naturally. I'm generally approached, but if there's someone I wish to date, I will definitely approach. Purely innate, very much instinctive. Has never caused a problem.
you are a social genius.
… and you are a beautiful human … on the Wrong Planet
Gates and Musk are both driven individuals so I think it would be more accurate to say they maximised their intelligence because they were highly motivated to succeed.
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Gates and Musk are both driven individuals so I think it would be more accurate to say they maximised their intelligence because they were highly motivated to succeed.
or their intelligence maximized THEM.
Gates and Musk are both driven individuals so I think it would be more accurate to say they maximised their intelligence because they were highly motivated to succeed.
At this point in their respective lives they have both tasted abundant successes and irregardless of their ambition .
It would be rather impossible for them to not acknowledge that they are humans . And possibly be sympathetic to the plight of others that may share similarities in neurological make up . There but for the grace of god go I .knowing how these men compose themselves given the times that the worlds is going through , and their possible lack of altruism. Towards others of similiar neurology . One might hope that someday the shoe would be on the other foot so to speak .
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it is quite common for gifted people to climb the ladder of success and then pull the ladder up behind them so nobody may follow. just look at clarence thomas who was the beneficiary of an affirmative action program to get him into law school and then he turns around to his fellow POC and opposes the same sorts of affirmative action programs that helped him, for anybody else. stinking hypocrite he is. legions of people just like him.
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