Can you tell when you misinterpreted indirect speech?

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Quite the challenge for us "Aspies", but have you gotten better at accurately comprehending indirect speech from NTs?
That was definitely the bane of my existence in my young adult years...

I always relied on one bellwether of misinterpreting indirect speech - my NT interlocutor would look a bit shocked after my paraphrase or follow-on remark, and reply with "Umm....yyyeahhh, something like that."
Very seldom would they reply with "NO! where the heck did you get THAT notion from??? That's not what I meant at all!! !"

It was especially embarrassing when there would be peers in the group situation, who'd all just intuitively understand the unspoken nuance (based on the "magic" of central coherence and ToM, mixed in with unstated norms), and then there's moi who would try to analytically decipher the rather cryptic comment.

I think in that case, where you get the above "indirect response to misinterpreting an indirect response", you could just acknowledge it humbly e.g. "Ahh, you know what, it's my bad, I just saw another angle to that what you said, but I think I'm 'off key'." or, "I just let my imagination run wild." If you have the right opportunity you can mask it with humour and humility, and you might get away with it. Good tactic