Aspergers are known as little professors?
I'm not a 'little professor' and I wasn't as a child either.
And it's not to say NT children can't have good knowledge for facts on a subject. When my (definitely NT) cousin was 4, he loved dinosaurs and knew every fact about them. He once told me the name of every dinosaur using his collection of dinosaur toys, including interesting facts about them that I, then 11, didn't even know about. He was just crazy about dinosaurs and had been since he was about 1 (before he had any friends).
I learnt more facts about dinosaurs from a 4-year-old in one day than I ever did at school (not that I had a particular interest in dinosaurs or anything).
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Being a Little Professor in my opinion is a good thing. It means that you know more information about something than most people. You are a little expert.
And what does that make Aspergers people good at?
I found many things in life to be very interesting. I would study that area and become a bit of an expert. But then something else came along and I would chase that topic down. So as time went on, I became a bit of an expert on many different areas.
This trait can make you an expert in whatever field you choose. But, But, But, But, But
A true expert knows the truth. Some of the information in whatever field you chose is false. To be a true expert, you have to be able to determine what is accurate and what is false.
(Not all Aspies have this trait.)
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Most adults generally stop learning when they leave school. They become knowledgeable in one field and that is their primary focus.
The world is huge. You can become an expert in whatever field you choose. You can see the truth in things.
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The overly verbose expressions of sharing special interests, and/or obscure and/or trivial facts.
Basically infodump. Except in a more articulate manner that actually pars in college level verbal terms.
I certainly am not one of these.
I don't have the right type of verbosity whether or not I have the right type and depth of interests.
I don't even have the language skills to actually do it.
I can keep up listening with such. Sometimes looking forward to it somehow earlier in life.
Yet I met no one who does. And no one's ever given me that except actual literal professors.
It might be different for girls.
Instead of little professors, it's little philosophers by thinking deeply about social situations, human interactions and it's nature.
Might be a stereotype.
I'm not exactly one of these either. But it's closer to me in expression than the former.
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I'm more like a doctor, and specialist and adviser on everything for my family. People expect me to know everything, I mean everything, from plumbing to office relationship dynamic to other countries' tax laws to weird cancer. One can not know all that. I'm rather sick of being made to be a know-it-all. They started asking me for advice since I was 9. I must always be right and never make mistakes in anything I do.
My autistic kids are free. Nobody expect them to know much and they don't look like little professors.
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What you're describing is called "parentification". That's when parents impose adult or parental responsibilities onto a child: things like asking for adult-level advice (as opposed to simple suggestions), "confiding" to them about marital troubles, making them responsible for other family members' mental health, and like in your case, requiring them to remember adult-level information. This is particularly common in immigrant families, where the child is forced to be his parents' English-to-native (and vice versa) interpreter.
At the same time, the parents who parentify their kids NEVER give them anything in return for the extra duties: no later bedtimes, no extra food choices, no additional screen time, and certainly no lessened demands for perfect grades. At most, the kid gets is symbolic, transactional praise, if he's "lucky". And more often than not, the same kid is punished for failing to perform the parentified duties.
So basically, the kid takes on real adult responsibilities with no way to opts out, and has nothing even close to adult rights. To add insult to the injury, because "little professors" appear "smart" to adults, the risk of them being parentified goes up exponentially.
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I fit this stereotype pretty closely as a kid in a lot of ways, especially if dinosaurs or history or chemistry or military aviation were the topics.
Certain traits get recognized as gifted but often there's a tendency to overlook how being gifted isn't a pure blessing among reasons because it often makes it harder to learn good work ethic, it can contribute to being stuck up if one sees everything comes easier to them and it can make one less willing to endure struggling if they've never had to struggle before.
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What you're describing is called "parentification". That's when parents impose adult or parental responsibilities onto a child: things like asking for adult-level advice (as opposed to simple suggestions), "confiding" to them about marital troubles, making them responsible for other family members' mental health, and like in your case, requiring them to remember adult-level information. This is particularly common in immigrant families, where the child is forced to be his parents' English-to-native (and vice versa) interpreter.
At the same time, the parents who parentify their kids NEVER give them anything in return for the extra duties: no later bedtimes, no extra food choices, no additional screen time, and certainly no lessened demands for perfect grades. At most, the kid gets is symbolic, transactional praise, if he's "lucky". And more often than not, the same kid is punished for failing to perform the parentified duties.
So basically, the kid takes on real adult responsibilities with no way to opts out, and has nothing even close to adult rights. To add insult to the injury, because "little professors" appear "smart" to adults, the risk of them being parentified goes up exponentially.
I think there's two forms of this and both have risks.
The first form is like you describe where the parent at least maintains parental boundaries which leaves the kid treated like a kid but with adult responsibilities. This is terrible in lots of ways but on some level at least ensure boundaries are enforced and judgment beyond the kid's gets applied.
But there's also the other form where the parent fails to maintain those boundaries and the kid gains additional privileges, but basically ends up raising themselves because mom and/or dad are just older friends and not actually willing to serve as parents. This allows more freedom and might allow for developing more confidence and having more independence as a kid but also comes with much higher risk because without boundaries it's easier for things to become a free-for-all where the boundary is whatever can be gotten away with. There's higher risks of a gutter ball without the bumpers in place.
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If you feel useless, just remember the USA took four presidents, thousands of lives, trillions of dollars and 20 years to replace the Taliban with the Taliban.
The first form is like you describe where the parent at least maintains parental boundaries which leaves the kid treated like a kid but with adult responsibilities. This is terrible in lots of ways but on some level at least ensure boundaries are enforced and judgment beyond the kid's gets applied.
But there's also the other form where the parent fails to maintain those boundaries and the kid gains additional privileges, but basically ends up raising themselves because mom and/or dad are just older friends and not actually willing to serve as parents. This allows more freedom and might allow for developing more confidence and having more independence as a kid but also comes with much higher risk because without boundaries it's easier for things to become a free-for-all where the boundary is whatever can be gotten away with. There's higher risks of a gutter ball without the bumpers in place.
You left out the third form: When parentified duties are treated as a compensated JOB. Like feeding the chickens on a small farm 200 years ago, or sweeping the floor in a fish shop 100 years ago. The child does the job he took, and gets paid for it mostly fairly. (And probably turns over a percentage to his parents, thus raising his status in the family.)
Similarly, a parentified child "works" by acting as a peacemaker between his parents, giving advice to his grandparent about talking to doctors, reading to his younger sibling (this isn't really parentification, I guess), and translating government letters into the native language.
In return, he can eat dessert unconditionally, rather than as a reward for good behavior. He can stay up until 10:30 PM, rather than 8:30 PM. He's exempt from bringing home good grades, as long as he passes all his classes. And he can see his friends any time he wants (and they're free).
Easy-peasy. Fair and square.
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The first form is like you describe where the parent at least maintains parental boundaries which leaves the kid treated like a kid but with adult responsibilities. This is terrible in lots of ways but on some level at least ensure boundaries are enforced and judgment beyond the kid's gets applied.
But there's also the other form where the parent fails to maintain those boundaries and the kid gains additional privileges, but basically ends up raising themselves because mom and/or dad are just older friends and not actually willing to serve as parents. This allows more freedom and might allow for developing more confidence and having more independence as a kid but also comes with much higher risk because without boundaries it's easier for things to become a free-for-all where the boundary is whatever can be gotten away with. There's higher risks of a gutter ball without the bumpers in place.
You left out the third form: When parentified duties are treated as a compensated JOB. Like feeding the chickens on a small farm 200 years ago, or sweeping the floor in a fish shop 100 years ago. The child does the job he took, and gets paid for it mostly fairly. (And probably turns over a percentage to his parents, thus raising his status in the family.)
Similarly, a parentified child "works" by acting as a peacemaker between his parents, giving advice to his grandparent about talking to doctors, reading to his younger sibling (this isn't really parentification, I guess), and translating government letters into the native language.
In return, he can eat dessert unconditionally, rather than as a reward for good behavior. He can stay up until 10:30 PM, rather than 8:30 PM. He's exempt from bringing home good grades, as long as he passes all his classes. And he can see his friends any time he wants (and they're free).
Easy-peasy. Fair and square.
Definitely and that seems more likely to be healthy than the others.
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If you're not careful, the newspapers will have you hating the people who are being oppressed, and loving the people who are doing the oppressing. —Malcolm X
If you feel useless, just remember the USA took four presidents, thousands of lives, trillions of dollars and 20 years to replace the Taliban with the Taliban.
Instead, the adults laughed at you in an "aww, how cute! (read: pathetic!)" way, or punished you for correcting them. You simply didn't understand that the adults wanted no part of your knowledge; they were too busy with crap like alcohol, prescription drugs, politics, and stocks. They didn't see you as a real person with his own thoughts and speaking abilities. They just wanted you to hide in the background like the cute subhuman creature they saw you as.
Hi. I think the little professor thing from asperger's is to give a monologue on a given special subject in a lecturing tone in lieu of conversation. I personally do this lecturing thing whether I am asked to or not. Small talk is something I cannot come to terms with.
Cheers brett.
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