Need To Get Rid Of My Cat

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Hey folks. It's been a while since I've posted here but I've come back because I need some advice on something and I have nowhere else to turn.

So two years ago my mom adopted a cat. He's a European shorthair and he was about four months old around the time of adoption. He's just the greatest cat in the entire galaxy. Really playful, cuddly, and just full of energy. Me and this little guy have bonded tremendously over these past two years. Now at the time, I didn't want a cat because of my little brother, who is also on the spectrum. In the past, he has struggled with animal cruelty.

From 2016-2019 we lived in Reno Nevada. Out there we adopted several cats. The first cat we adopted was a Russian blue, about four years old. Pretty good cat. In the beginning, my brother displayed relatively normal behavior that you would with any other pet. He played with him, fed him, gave him attention when he wanted it, etc. Then a few months go by and things start to change for no particular reason. One time I caught him bending the cat over in a position that was hurting him and I stopped him, resulting in a fight. Over time this started to become more of an occurrence.

Over time I would watch him smack the cat. On numerous occasions, I would see him step on the cat's tail and then laugh at his reaction. Each time I would step in, resulting in a physical altercation. For some reason, this went unnoticed in our household.

In the summer of 2017, we went to North Carolina for the entire summer and came back to learn the cat had run away(I wonder why). Mom decides to adopt another cat just like him. Obviously, because of my brother's behavior, I was pissed. So we got another, sadly, and the same thing happened, and every time it would end in a fight. We adopted another cat, a mainecoon breed and much older. Same crap. Over time our relationship became strained because of this.

In late 2019 my mom got a divorce from her husband at the time and we moved back to North Carolina. Because of this, we left the cats behind. You can imagine my relief.

Well, that didn't last long because shortly after that my mom got our current cat. I begged her not to get another, it happened anyway. I confronted my brother about it and he admitted that he was mean to the cats but he said he could change. I wasn't falling for it. So we get the cat and things are good, for a while. His behavior isn't as bad but he is still mean to him.

The reason why I'm writing this is because I have reached a breaking point. Yesterday we had an incident where my brother was splashing water on the cat. Not as bad as the other s**t he does but still pretty bad. I confront him about it. A few minutes into the conversation he attacks me. He tried to punch me but I held him back with my foot. I threaten to call the police and he immediately backs down. I text my mom and she concludes that I was in the wrong. That me asking about it was antagonizing him and I was asking for it. See, she has this feud with me where I'm the bad kid and in the case of brother vs. brother I'm always wrong, regardless of whatever. Anyway.

This isn't abnormal for my brother. He's punched several kids in school throughout the years. He's been banned from a Christian camp because he got into a whopping six fights while he was there. A few weeks ago my mom got an email from his teacher saying that he wasn't paying attention in class. When she tried to get his attention he stormed out of class, flipped off the teacher and punched a locker. He has also destroyed my mother's wall. In his bedroom, he managed to punch a hole big enough where a simple patch wouldn't work and we had to install an entire piece of sheetrock to fix it. A few weeks after that he manages to punch a hole twice as big.

This whole thing has been a hell for me, but it's gotten to the point where I'm not even that mad. During our confrontation yesterday I didn't feel angry like I should have. It's almost like me living in this house has fried my brain. But I can't do this anymore.

I want to get rid of the cat, but I don't know how. I don't have any friends or family that could take him in. My original plan was to call animal control in the morning. Everyone is out of the house by 7 AM-8:15 AM. The idea is to call animal control and make up a story where we have someone who's moving into our house and he's allergic to cats. Our neighbors have at least ten or more cats outside of his house (he feeds them) but we don't want to turn him loose because they fight all the time. I thought about doing this via an anonymous call. The story I tell my family is that he ran away. Sometimes we let him onto the back porch so they'll think that he pushed the screen door open and ran away. Plus, animal control is only five minutes away from our house. It should work, but I'm afraid that it won't.

Most animal shelters have a 24-48 hour hold. Plus, what if my mom gets another cat? Money's tight at the moment but it's still a possibility.

What can I do? This has gone on long enough and this needs to end. An animal shouldn't have to suffer because the little rat is sick in the head. How can I end this?

Since it wasn't said in post that you'd already done it, it might be an idea to Google for cat rescuers in your area.

Even if there isn't one real close, call a couple and tell them what is going on.
They may have people in your area who work with them.

Yes, the cat needs to get to a safer place, soon and very soon.

Try and find no kill shelters that are within your reach! I applaud you for trying to keep this animal safe. It’s a shake so many places only let the animal live for 24-48 hours. If you can’t find a shelter you can look into independent cat rescues and fosters. I really hope it works out and I’m so sorry you are in this situation

Also be wary of that brother. Cruelty to animals is quite concerning..