SpiralingCrow wrote:
I was reading through some posts on the forum the other day. A man mentioned that in school, all the boys hated and bullied him but he got along with the girls. I'm a woman and all my past friendships with women do not survive. The relationship feels complicated and tends to end quite poorly. Often, I don't understand why it ends. I find my friendships with men either don't end at all or last longer. They also feel less complicated.
I began thinking about how the opposite sex may relate to those on the spectrum. Are NT men more forgiving of the "quirks" of ASD women? Are NT women more forgiving of the "quirks" of ASD men?
Has any one else found that friendships with the opposite sex less complicated? Or no there is no difference?
I've been on both ends of that.
In school, males were much more aggressive with my differences and they had their own backs. Males who were quirky were treated better and integrated in their group more.
Then, online, for a while, I found to really be able to hold longer friendships with males but not without issue or judgements.
Males in my city are very judging and insensitive, my quirks easily come out on the street even if they dont know me, they rudely point out anything unusual about me, hairstyle, clothes, etc. I don't get why males would be interested in this, and I think they are disgusting and run their mouths unnecessarily. They have a fun time pointing it out to their girlfriends, and I don't know how those girls tolerate that behaviour in the one they respect and expect maturity from. Somehow, I don't think they get treated very well either.
Thanks for your post. The issue you describe where men are pointing at you on the street, that seems less of a male/female dynamic than a cultural one. I see you live in Romania. I have not been there but I can imagine society there is still quite traditional there in many respects.