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sohil142003
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07 Jul 2022, 5:45 pm

I get emberassed when I get seen in public



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07 Jul 2022, 5:52 pm

Only if I am being watched while I do something silly or unusual.



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07 Jul 2022, 6:02 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Only if I am being watched while I do something silly or unusual.

Never just from being seen in public?



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07 Jul 2022, 6:08 pm

Seen how? Merely being looked at? No. I probably wouldn't notice.



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07 Jul 2022, 6:17 pm

Yes, or if not embarrassed I get socially anxious and feel I have to mask. Strangers are more overwhelming to me and because they don't know what's going on in my head they'll only see what's on the outside and are quick to judge and be callous if you're showing any sort of body language that they don't like, and I wish they'd just ignore me unless I'm doing something really obvious like yelling and screaming or something, but I don't do that. I just walk and stand like any other normal person, look presentable and not dress out of the ordinary, and just look ahead like I don't care. Sometimes I can't help but catch someone staring though, and this is what gives me anxiety. I wish, so much, that more people were aware of social anxiety and understood that if someone is looking a bit shy or overwhelmed it is best not to stare because they may be suffering with anxious thoughts. And no, they don't stare because they think an anxious person might suddenly pull out a knife from their pocket and start slicing everyone to death, because usually murderers are men (not being sexist, statistics show that men are much more likely to be serial killers than women, if a woman is a killer she's usually involved in a murder with a murderous man, I don't think there has ever been many women that have just gone out on a killing spree on their own stabbing or shooting random people in the street), and usually a serial killer looks shifty, like they're hunting down a victim. I don't look like that, in fact I look the opposite. If I did look like a potential murderer then people wouldn't let their kids go near me, and people are always letting themselves or their kids invade my space without fearing me, so that just tells you that I don't look like a dangerous threat. They just look at me because they're judgemental and think that being out in public is all about competition or something.


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07 Jul 2022, 6:43 pm

Oddly enough for an introverted autistic I worked in retail for something like 15 to 20 years.
It turned out to be fairly easy to be in public when I had a defined person to be, a defined role to play.

Be the sales clerk at the hobby shop, the art store, the pet store, the book store?
I can do that!
Especially with it being things I was personally in to.

Was even able to do that at F. W. Woolworth.
Because we sold necessary and useful stuff.

Pretty much the same with being a Car Host on National Railway Historical Society train trips.

Pretty much the same, again, with model train club open houses.

Way back in 7th grade I volunteered in the school library.
Got in to that too, especially reading to the kindergartners and 1st and 2nd graders.

Hmm, looking at all that, it seems I might like to protect the real and vulnerable me behind putting on a performance.

Buy yet ...

Those "performances" were very much rooted in the real me and things in life which I value and enjoy.


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07 Jul 2022, 6:56 pm

My son tries to hide in the bushes when strangers walk by.



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07 Jul 2022, 7:38 pm

Pteranomom wrote:
My son tries to hide in the bushes when strangers walk by.

How old is he



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07 Jul 2022, 8:21 pm

I was embarissed after burnout as my body was not always functioning as it should, but I am ok now.



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07 Jul 2022, 8:40 pm

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I was embarissed after burnout as my body was not always functioning as it should, but I am ok now.

What is burnout?



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07 Jul 2022, 9:58 pm

only if someone is laughing at me or looking at me weirdly.

sometimes that happens, but not merely being seen in public.

the weird looks might have to do with crossdressing or autism.

but i am not telepathic and anyone could look at anyone weirdly for any reason or no reason.



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07 Jul 2022, 11:27 pm

I get intense anxiety from going in public. I don't really like being around people outside of my family, and I hate being in crowds of people. I actually almost had a bad anxiety attack during drivers ed today, just because I had to stand in a small lobby with a bunch of other people after we finished a test. :|



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07 Jul 2022, 11:58 pm

sohil142003 wrote:
Pteranomom wrote:
My son tries to hide in the bushes when strangers walk by.

How old is he

12.
We've been having conversations about why this behavior only draws more attention to himself and I think he is starting to get a little better about it.



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08 Jul 2022, 1:25 am

sohil142003 wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
I was embarissed after burnout as my body was not always functioning as it should, but I am ok now.

What is burnout?


It is basically a depression but when a spectrumer gets depression it's named burnout for some reason.

I just call it depression because it's basically the same thing.


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08 Jul 2022, 9:55 am

Joe90 wrote:
sohil142003 wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
I was embarissed after burnout as my body was not always functioning as it should, but I am ok now.

What is burnout?


It is basically a depression but when a spectrumer gets depression it's named burnout for some reason.

I just call it depression because it's basically the same thing.


no its not



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08 Jul 2022, 10:11 am

I have to go out in public. I try not to look too disheveled. If I look disheveled, then I get self-conscious because I don't want to look like a bum.

I didn't care so much about my "image" when I was younger.