Not wanting people near me

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I have noticed that I don't really like having others around me a lot of the time. Like, if I'm wandering my school's halls and thinking, I don't like to have anyone else in the hall. Or if I'm out for a walk, I cringe whenever I see someone approaching me. I'd rather be left alone to stim and think, and having people near me feels like an intrusion. Is anyone else like this?

Same totally the same for me.

I wouldn't say the presence of people gives me pleasure (except when I'm sitting around just watching people).

But I've learned to tolerate this presence. I prefer my own company, though.

I don't really like it when people approach me.

I'm the same way. I love having the sidewalk all to myself when I'm out walking my dog, and I get a little anxious when anyone else comes walking by on either side of the street. Same when I'm out at work -- the fewer people that are around to see me, the better I feel.

One of my stims is speaking my thoughts out loud when I know that no one's around to see or hear them. But in those situations when I know people might see or hear me, I might still move my lips but I don't produce audible sounds.

If I don't get a good amount of alone time I get very agitated. Particularly if someone is sitting close to me when I want to be alone. Its almost as if they have an energy field and its pushing into mine, my arms feel tingly and I feel uncomfortable and paranoid. If they are talking the agitation is amplified quite a bit, especially because the more irritated I am the more it seems that they are talking too loud.

Yes, it's why I'd walk around campus late in the day and at night instead of when classes were scheduled. Those are honestly my favorite memories....ever. Alone in the dark with the stars above or a slight trickle of rain that made everything glow with the warm lamp lights of the campus. It was serene I miss it.

Depends. If the person is someone I'm comfortable with, I'm quite happy for them to be around a lot of the time. Strangers though, just knowing there's strangers within a kilometre of me is enough to get me agitated.

I prefer to be alone, unless it's with someone I'm close to. Even then, sometimes I want to be totally alone. I avoid places with lots of people if possible.

I prefer isolation. I do like human contact, just not too much, even rarely.

I feel a bit double talked when saying things like that.
On one hand, I have always craved human contact and approval. Always messed it up, but crave it.
On the other, I also want it in limited quantities. When I get it, it becomes a bit overwhelming and I start to withdraw.

It seems like I'm doing that old, 'come here, I want you...too close..go away..."

Do I do an emotional push/pull on people around me?

Thank you for your replies. It's good to know others feel the same.

I have a problem with strangers too near me. I hate a stranger sitting next to me on the bus. No matter where I sit, I'm usually the first who's sitting alone to have someone sit next to me. I feel a surge of frustration, and have to force myself to keep my cool.

I also hate strangers standing too close to me in shops. I suddenly lose concentration. Having someone standing behind or next to me looking at the same item on the shelf I'm looking at really makes me feel anxious. I can't bear it.

I say "strangers" because people I know in my space doesn't worry me at all.

My biggest pet peeve on the subway is when the train empties out, I'm against the rail and someone remains right up against me when there is plenty of room to separate and have space between us.

Hate the trains anyway, but why stay up against me?

And, I know my routs. I sit in the same basic areas, facing the same direction based off what the final stop is, correct area to put me at the right end of the station to exit. Why should I have to move? My spot is there for a few reasons: sign reading, reading the stop indicators and facing the correct direction when at my stop. Same going to work.

I can empathise with this stuff. Strangers getting too close is a very stressful experience. Heck, even family sometimes can make me uncomfortable by getting too close to me. Sometimes I feel like sticking a sign to the back of my computer chair saying "leave me alone please", but with my family, they'll just completely ignore it.

I don't fully identify with this but I live alone, that could change things