uninteresting as a person?

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I wish I could carry a conversation. I just can't. If somebody else is having a conversation I can usually interject a few zingers, but never anything substantial. Also, I iwsh I could tell a good story.....The most bizarre, out of this world stuff could happen to me and I wouldn't be able to tell a good story about it....I Would manage to somehow make it vapid and incoherent.....I just feel like I am uninteresting as a person...I may be wrong....but even so...I know there are people who are assuredly less interesting than I am.....I have friends who are.....But somehow....they always have something to talk about, and stories to tell, and all sorts of conversational fodder.......Is there any way to learn how to be like that?

I have the same problem.
Something strange or funny would happen to me and I will say it but it comes out all wrong and sounds, as you put it, incoherant. Also, when someone is talking about something that I know about, such as my interest at the time, I will try and add my bit to the conversation, but again I use the wrong words.
I don't know how to be "fluent in small talk", but if I figure it out i'll be the first to let everyone know

I am no good at conversations. I 'talk' more on the computer than anywhere else. If it's up to me, I don't go anywhere where much talking is necessary. Most everyone who knows me knows that they should email or IM me rather than call on the phone. I got a very bizarre look from a new neighbor when I was helping him with something (in person) and gave him my email address in case he needed any further help. He must think that I'm the biggest nut on the planet, me telling him to email me when he can walk to my house in 10 seconds, and I'm always here! LOL

I have this problem too. I never know what to say or how to say it. I don't know what the 'cool' things are to say and what it is and isn't okay to be interested in.

I got called 'boring' a lot as a child and after a while I gave up trying to talk about my interests to people unless I knew that they shared this interest.

I also have the same problem with explaining if something interesting or funny happened. Other people seem to have good storytelling skills and can re-create the situation. I don't seem to be able to do that. So generally I don't bother anymore. I just keep things to myself.

No one is that interesting. There's only so much one can speak of with language and human understanding.

My brother says I am boring because I rarely speak of anything other than Family Guy or American Dad... WHAT THE HECK ELSE AM I MEANT TO SPEAK ABOUT!?

*Ahem...*

My husband says that I never talk about anything other than online selling. I don't see that, but that's what he sees.

I have the opist problem I talk way to much usly. and I can be at times the life of a group or at other times getting on every ones nerves.

I'm really good at the zingers, myself, the short acerbic editorial that'll get a laugh, but not so much anything that really adds to the conversation.

But like Danielismyname says, most coversations are pretty dull so I mostly tune out anyway.

hee hee I'm like that too. I'm more likely to email people in the same town than call them. I can't hold much of a conversation unless its by email and then I can be very fluent. But I stutter and forget what I was saying if speaking aloud and get nervous having people look at me while I talk. The only practice talking I get is for the first hour of my work shift when I can BS with 3 guys that really like talking to me. They work the early shift and start going home a hour or so after I get in. So this is generally the only talking practice I get since I live alone with family 2000 miles away so I can't afford to call them and talk much. People try to talk to me at the church I started attending but I have no clue what to talk about with strangers.

PS: I like your fishy avatar Boutique. Do you have aquariums? I have over 40 fishes and am very attached to them.

I also have difficulty trying to talk in church, even with people that I know. A good friend of mine once told me that he had tried to talk to me, but I completely ignored him. I honestly had no clue whatsoever that he had tried to talk to me! That's how much difficulty I have trying to fit in with large groups of peoople.

Yes, I do have aquariums. I LOVE fishies and used to have 14 aquariums running. Now I am down to only 4 aquariums because I simply don't have the time and ability to care for more.

I like your avatar Boutique, it's lovely. And very fishy

Maybe you just don't like talking about yourself. I sometimes feel that way that i'm boring ppl to death if I talk about myself. Also, i get nervous and keep going over in my mind what to say and if it sounded "normal'' or not. And then later on i keep going over it in my head wether it was a good conversation or failed to communicate what i was trying too.

That describes me to a 'T'. I can't tell a story for the life of me.

I also hate social situations (parties etc.) where there are a bunch of people "mingling" in a crowded room. Usually everyone else forms into groups of two, three, four people and they’ll talk their heads off. My problem is I usually can’t even get close enough to any one particular group to distinguish what they’re talking about. I hate not even being able to hear what everyone else is chattering their heads off about. It’s just a cacophony of noisy chatter to me. It baffles me how people can have so much to say in such situations.

I’m sure that even if I could manage to carry on a conversation in such situations I would run out of ideas rather quickly and have nothing more to contribute after about ten minutes of talking. I too fear that people will think I’m “boring” because I have little to contribute. Sometimes think the reason I can’t “do” small talk is that I find the majority of things other people like to talk about utterly uninteresting. I fear they will feel the same of what I have to say.

Sometimes I fear that at it’s root it really is a problem of not being able to relate. I prefer deep discussions on some particular topic. I need material that makes me think to stay interested. Small talk just doesn't do this for me.

For the people who don’t like talking can’t talk allot or have trouble talking to people. I recommend you hang out with stoners. They will find every thing you have to say interesting. If your stoned you’ll find every thing interesting. And in general stoners are usly very accepting people when it comes to odd ball weird people like our selfs. –not saying all stoners are that way but a lot if not the majority are-

I have the same problem when it comes to agnoliging people when they talk so I always conshely think about it and try my best to listen and not just talk and over time ive notice and other people notice that my social skills are improving. so when it comes to problems communicating with people it doesn’t mean its permanent you just have to always work on it and find people to hang out with that are better at understanding you and what your not good at..