a topic reply about truthfulness and aspiedom

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humility is a gift that not enough people in this world have....ive played both roles but even though i try to be the a***hole i fail myself in the end...by failing myself i mean that i am not being me and i would rather deal with relentless BS and be myself than have to compromise my person to get by....this is what has taken me some 26 years and counting to figure out....i dont think the point is to be a sh*^&y person but to learn when to stand firm and when not to...I think as aspies we all have this internal lie detector within us, and to say otherwise and fight it would seem to bring more harm than good...although lies are sometimes needed to lessen the blow of bad news or things as such but its very mystifiying for me to know when that is..i just hope to find the nice gooey inbetween and remain...

anyone out there feel the same...

I feel more strongly about fairness than lying, I really get upset about it.
I still don't like lying especially if someone is doing it for gain but understand that it is not always essential to tell the absolute truth
eg 'how are you today' = 'i'm fine thank you, how are you?'
NOT
'I'm a bit depressed and feel sick because I just started my period, I don't really care how you are at the moment so I won't ask?'

yeah i still have to catch myself sometimes from telling people my problems because i wear them like high fashion...
i end up frowning or not showing any expression at all to kind of shield myself from giving people too much which may freak them out or upset them...