Do I have it?

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Hey Guys,

I just wanna know if I have this asperger's thing.

I'm a 20 year old guy. My interests these days are music (i play guitar), my job (web design, which i love) and trying to find friends. This is basically where I've come unstuck. I *should* have friends. I look pretty good, I can easily keep a conversation going with even the most boring person, I earn stacks of money for my age. I think I'm pretty fun to be around, I dont get why I'm not more popular.

Okay I have a few friends online, but they seem to be very reserved and dont want to actually meet up for a night on the town or anything?? Maybe I come off as a creep or something? I dunno. Is it REALLY this hard just to get people to be SOCIAL with you, and actually go out with you.

I'm not even talking about girls yet, just FRIENDS. My experience with girls is: occasionally one will act *very* flirty, but it almost never is serious, and I can never take it from "firting" to actually "going out". This girl I knew at my last job as a bit like that. As soon as I asked her out it was a flat "no".

My mother thinks maybe when I talk to people I'm doing something wrong or forgetting to do something? Maybe my facial inflections are wrong? I just CAN'T for the life of me work this out.

What's wierd is, people don't ALWAYS avoid me. Like at my current job we go out for friday night drinks and everyone says hi and shakes my hand and I can chat easily. So everything seems to be okay. But in other settings, people just kind of withdraw, like maybe I'm coming on too strong.

Anyway I'm just really confused and this is making my life difficult at times. I'm happy most of the time because I have things I love like my job and music but the most important thing is PEOPLE, and unfortunately that's the thing I just don't "get".

So can someone diagnose me or something? Maybe I'm a mild case?

Take some of these online test and report your scores.

http://aq.server8.org/
http://www.pttools.co.uk/asc/asc_wp2.php
http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

I did the first one and scored 14.

I hope to god this is the REAL score.

But I found some of them difficult to give a straight answer to. For example, the question about "interpreting how people feel by looking at them". I'm not sure -- sometimes I can tell, sometimes I can't.

Also the one about understanding a character's motives in a story ... I sometimes find this difficult if I don't really care about the storyline (eg. if I'm watching a movie with friends that I don't find particularly interesting)

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Gee, with something like AS, you would think the average person would be HAPPY to know!

In a way, I am upset because my attempts at social things are probably doomed to failure, and all the times people did a doubletake, etc... make sense. On the other hand, I now know what not to bother with, and that I am not alone.

My strengths and weeknessness now all make sense.

Never trust online tests. They are unreliable and may even contain spyware. You should see a specialist if you want to know whether you have it or not.