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Hi i am new to this, my boyfreind who has asd introduced me to it. Recently we have been talking because we have noticed i am a lot like him (the way he acts with his asd) and i have been like it for a while before i met with him. i had a word with my mum about it and she just blanked me out and told me i was been stupid. i really want to found out if i have asd but it feels like no one is willing to help me out, my dad doesn't understand me, and hes always to busy to talk to me. my mum no's i act strangely and do things that other people dont do, but she turns a blind eye to it. Any one think they can help me, i would really appreciate it.

Hi Danie

Welcome to WP

First of all you have come to the right place I'm sure people will help you

The only thing I can think if you think you have ASD the best thing you can do is go to your doctor and see if he can get you a diagnosis. He will then refere you to a phychiatrist. Also there are many different organisations the one I can think of at the moment is NAS (National Autistic Society) I suggest to look it up on the internet

Hope I have been of help.

thankyou yes that helps a lot

What problems are you having that you think might be related to ASD? Which is important to note because there is no known treatment for ASD but some of the common comorbid issues can be treated. So explaining those specfic problems to your parents might get the ball rolling.

i have difficulty understanding another persons point of view,
i dont understand peoples emotions,
i have trouble making friends,
i am really interested in peoples problems,
i found it hard to understand a joke i need someone to explain the joke before seeing the humour,
i found it very difficult to control my temper, i snap at anything,
i am agressive verbally and i have often physical outbursts,
my use of eye contact is very little i cant look people in the eye when threre speaking to me,
i figet a lot when people speak to me, i also figet when iam alone,
i have difficulties with my brothers but my relationship with my sister is fine my brother doesn't understand me and he thinks i am weird,
i have a fixed routine for everyday,
i repeatedly ask questions,
i also was in a learning group in my previous school because i found it difficult to understand things.

Last edited by Danie on 22 Aug 2007, 7:30 am, edited 1 time in total.

Sounds like you've got it.

But at the same time you can't be sure unless you have a proper diagnosis x:

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Your mother doesn't turn a blind eye to it as you say. She does diagnose you, but with stupidity instead of AS. Reminds me of my mother. She was always more than willing to acknowledge all my "imperfections" and diagnose me, only her diagnoses were invariably blameful. Your mother acknowledges your difference, only she wants to dismiss it as your fault lest she'll have to deal with it.

yes i think that sounds right. it just feels like she doesn't want to help me out and its real upsetting. my boyfriend with asd told me that i cant get diagnosed without my parants until i am 18. none of my parants are willing to help me!! !

danie,it has been like that for a while....what do mean by that?
ASD is there from birth,although aspergers is not likely to be very noticeable until the child is at school as parents don't really notice any problems till they are with NT children-even then,many children with aspergers were missed because of ignorance and little being known about it,mf/hf forms of Autistic Disorder [Kanners syndrome] is easier to spot due to stronger traits and the speech and language difficulties-but,still might not have been diagnosed correctly due to the ignorance of years ago.

usually parents and often ASDers themselves will remember the traits from a very young age,try to think back to school years,when a young child,and get someone who knew what was like to ask about it as a second opinion-that could be parents,and if they cannot be bothered to deal with it [like what often happens]-other relatives,teachers,doctors,neighbours...



not always,it can be pyschologists as well,who are not able to prescribe medications if they were required.
some people have even been referred to neurologists,probably depends on how specialist the area is.

danie,make sure the doctor refers to someone who is an autism specialist and who usually works with teens/adults,make sure he does not refer to a mental health pysch.

Today i took a test for autism and aspergers
and i am really confused becuase me and my boyfreind who has asd thought that i had it but then this test says that "i am very likely to have aspergers"
so i dont know what to think. my mum thinks am been silly dads not interested when i tried asking him for help last night he thought i was joking!! !! !
isnt they any where i can go to get help? do i need my parants with me?