blitzkrieg wrote:
If it has been three years without sex in a relationship that started with only a few months of sex, I think you seriously need to consider breaking up with her, as hard as that may be emotionally.
jimdodds wrote:
That was two years ago and we are still close friends.
Friends. What's to "break up" with?
@OP, you could ask her, but there's a chance that even she doesn't fully understand. It's possible that she thought she wanted a sexual relationship, but after trying it she realized that it wasn't actually what she wanted. It may have set off trauma from before you knew her. She might have had undiagnosed issues that finally came to light and changed her perspective. She might have only later discovered she had autism, or just wasn't sure about telling you beforehand. Either way, people change, and people are allowed to change.
Regardless, anything we can suggest here is at best a guess, and nobody is going to know what's in her mind better than her. Any particular reason you're asking us instead of her? Also, why is it so important to know why? Knowing why won't change the fact that it is so. Are you asking out of concern for HER needs or for YOUR needs?