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04 Apr 2024, 8:38 pm

I hate being touched and often (involuntarily) scream (out of fear) when someone has the nerve to touch me. Including "friendly" pats on the back. Esp since I do not have eyes in the back of my head and i can't predict when someone will do it. it gets on my nerves. what part of "keep your hands to yourself" do you not understand?

Anyone else?



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04 Apr 2024, 8:47 pm

Same for me. I can stand it with people I know very well as long as I'm warned before it happens, but otherwise it just seems very rude. And then other people think I'm being rude when I react.
When you're a kid they teach you about "personal space" but no one seems to care.


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04 Apr 2024, 8:55 pm

I can't do touch unless it's from an intimate partner, or a deep tissue massage therapist who makes it hurt.

Light touch drives me bonkers.

Last week I got such a hard massage I was bruised.


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04 Apr 2024, 9:24 pm

I'm more or less OK with it, and might even like it, as long as it's somebody I feel good about and it's not too sudden. Otherwise I'd really rather they didn't.

I hate the bedclothes being moved across my skin. It always sets off my itching. Occupational hazard when I share a bed. It's worth the discomfort overall, but only just, on a bad night.



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05 Apr 2024, 9:49 am

This is how I feel too


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06 Apr 2024, 4:53 am

Once someone at work poked me on the shoulder. It's a sore point because of fibromyalgia so I yelled "Ow!" They backed away in shock because of my reaction. So I said I was sorry and explained why her light poke hurt me so much.

I'm good at pretending that pats on the back and such don't bother me but deep down they do and my nerves are frazzled when it happens.