NT acceptance - how much do you strive for it?

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In what kind of situations do you try to pass for NT, in what kind of situations (or with what people) don't you care? Do you live in an NT world and proud of your ability to fake it? Have you given up? Did you never try? Do you hold out for friends who will accept you as you are and are lonely in the meantime or with few friends? Do you never pretend but were never fired from a job? Do you never try to pretend and get fired a lot? Are you lucky you don't need to strive because you have a steady income unrelated to work?

I ask because I've noticed lately that I've developed a polarity, in which I frantically pretend to be NT in anything related to work (I've been fired and unemployed countless times), with anyone who might be in any way connected to work, and on the other hand I have given up totally in anything not related to work. I don't even bother to try to meet new people and make friends, I don't even bother to pretend.

I used to pretend to be NT at work, because it was quite competitive where I worked. It was stressful though, and very tiring, but I didn't actually know why I was different then, not knowing about AS. I just thought I needed to be more sociable so I pretended to be so.

I left that job and I don't pretend to be NT now, for most of the time anyway. If I'm with a lot of people, at a social gathering I can do it, but I usually try to keep acting-NT time short as it's so tiring and I'm not wholly convinced that I do it very well now. I'm losing the ability now I don't do it very often.

I occasionally do voluntary work and I definitely don't pretend to be NT when I do that, because no-one pays me so if they don't like me, they can tell me to walk, it's no skin off my nose. Also, it involves working with adults with special needs and they can spot a faker a mile away, lol. I think other people generally deserve to meet the real you, rather than a false version of what you think you should be like. Mind you, having said that ~ which sounds rather brave ~ I'm not wholly comfortable in a large group of NTs. I know that they know I'm not one of them.

This was a difficult poll to answer because of the questions. I used to care about this sort of thing but now I don't give a damn. People can accept me and deal with me the way I am.

Ed Almos

I don't strive for it. I chase them down a blind alley, knock them down, beat them senseless, and go through their pockets to get it.

I am myself no matter what those NTs think.

~SHODAN, AI Goddess Gone Mad

I usually try to fake it, because i am so tired of being told I am inconsiderate, or aloof, or spoiled. I hate being told over and over that I need to learn to pay attention. Even my gf today got short tempered with me. I have trouble following points. As in when people point with their fingers if its not close i dont get it, like pointing at something down the road? Well she got mad at me and told me I had to start choosing to pay F*king attention, that no doctor could help me with that. That she is getting tired of it, tired of me being this way.

I wish I could pass. I wish I could fake being normal, it would be so easy.

Nowadays, I deal with the other humans as little as possible, and I try to fake it as best as I can when I do. As the years have gone by, I have put less and less effort into making friends and forming relationships. I meet nice people from time to time, but I no longer make any effort to establish a relationship that last longer than necessary. I have been letting existing relationships fade away. In part this is because it takes most of my time and energy just to maintain a basic level of functioning (holding down a job, etc.). In part it is because I simply do not relate well to other people, and I am tired of trying.

“There are moments when one has to choose between living one's own life, fully, entirely, completely --or dragging out some false, shallow, degrading existence that the world in its hypocrisy demands.” - Oscar Wilde

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I used to, but that was before I accepted the fact that I even had AS. Nowadays I dont care what they think, unless I have to for whatever reason.

The unvarnished aspie in me can seem rude or obnoxious or snobby so I certainly work on those aspects in any situation. I don't know that I'm very good at faking NT anyway, I just try not to come off as rude or crazy.

I just be myself and get on with life, I never really mention AS so most people don't notice it anyways c:

I like playing games with NT acceptance. Freaks 'em out...

I play an NT-accepted role, and then break character on the NT's, back to my disinterested Aspie self. You should see the looks!

I am borderline AS/NT, but I feel I need to do whatever I can to impress NTs.

Tim

NTs feel lucky when I accept them.

Is this a D&D strategy, by chance?

In my reality, I must consciously remember to "smile, don't look sad, take turns when someone is talking", and the like. Maybe I should go into acting or something. Lightness aside, I've taken on a couple of leadership roles in my community. It feels like a good fit but the PR side of it makes me quite unsettled.