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FranzOren
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21 Jun 2024, 9:21 am

I understand most social cues, but I have severe problems with social-emotional reciprocity.

Why is only understanding social cues not enough?

I tend to show abnormal facial expressions to a mild degree and some abnormal body language as well. It takes a few minutes for people to find out that I have Autism Spectrum Disorder or odd.



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21 Jun 2024, 12:20 pm

FranzOren wrote:
I understand most social cues, but I have severe problems with social-emotional reciprocity.

Why is only understanding social cues not enough?

I tend to show abnormal facial expressions to a mild degree and some abnormal body language as well. It takes a few minutes for people to find out that I have Autism Spectrum Disorder or odd.

It's a two way street, just understanding those queues from others does not mean that they're going to react appropriately to what you're doing or interpret the communication properly.

It sucks, but when we're in the minority, a lot of this gets blamed on us.



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21 Jun 2024, 12:24 pm

I have read many novels but never written one. Reading and writing are simply different things.

Imagine I learn French or Mandarin enough to understand a native speaker completely, but I insist on only speaking English to native French or Chinese who speak no English. How well do you think I would get on living in France or China?

Non-verbal communication is a language. “Reading” it is nor the same as “Writing” it.


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21 Jun 2024, 12:51 pm

Fenn wrote:
I have read many novels but never written one. Reading and writing are simply different things.

Imagine I learn French or Mandarin enough to understand a native speaker completely, but I insist on only speaking English to native French or Chinese who speak no English. How well do you think I would get on living in France or China?

Non-verbal communication is a language. “Reading” it is nor the same as “Writing” it.


Now that actually makes sense, now that I think about it