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12 Feb 2025, 2:22 pm

She said one something to me that was incredibly offensive, inappropriate and triggering. I responded by telling her that what she said to me was traumatic and I will now have to deal with that trauma. She told me that the way that I responded sounded angry and that I have to take responsibility for hurting her feelings. I fired her immediately.


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12 Feb 2025, 3:05 pm

Yeah.. doctors and therapists are just people with labels and they are gonna get defensive.

I also had a social worker ask about my love life to "see if it was the same as on big bang theory".

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12 Feb 2025, 4:57 pm

Good to see that somebody's fired a health professional. Too many people see them as some kind of authority.

I can't judge the merits of this case because I don't know what was said. But ultimately I think the customer is always right.



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12 Feb 2025, 4:59 pm

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But ultimately I think the customer is always right.


...in matters of taste.


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12 Feb 2025, 10:19 pm

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Good to see that somebody's fired a health professional. Too many people see them as some kind of authority.

I can't judge the merits of this case because I don't know what was said. But ultimately I think the customer is always right.
She basically asked me if I had incestuous feelings for my brother because he has been ghosting me and I am really struggling with that because we were very close and I really miss him.

She made it a point to say that I have to learn to take responsibility for what I say to people.


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12 Feb 2025, 10:27 pm

I remember when I fired one of mine 25 years ago.


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12 Feb 2025, 11:05 pm

I wish more people would have the courage to put these "professionals" in their places. So many of them are getting away with damaging and destroying vulnerable people.


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13 Feb 2025, 1:12 pm

Hopefully your next therapist is better,


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13 Feb 2025, 11:33 pm

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Hopefully your next therapist is better,
Thank you. I do too. I have had to fire several of them. It's really hard to find a good one.


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14 Feb 2025, 1:32 am

When first started therapy , long ago ...Did not know could ask to change them ,put up with the first one for a year.
Seemed more interested in me listening to his life. Then went through 2 nd to 3rd quickly ...But kept the third for about 3 yrs. Good Mental Health to you on your mental health journey :nerdy:


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14 Feb 2025, 12:55 pm

skibum wrote:
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Good to see that somebody's fired a health professional. Too many people see them as some kind of authority.

I can't judge the merits of this case because I don't know what was said. But ultimately I think the customer is always right.
She basically asked me if I had incestuous feelings for my brother because he has been ghosting me and I am really struggling with that because we were very close and I really miss him.

She made it a point to say that I have to learn to take responsibility for what I say to people.

Sounds like she was a bit too sold on Freud.



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15 Feb 2025, 12:53 am

Other than going to see a counselor one-time many years ago, I've never tried therapy. I guess I never knew how to go about it and worrying it wouldn't help. Not to mention the expensive, as I am sure my insurance would have a high co-pay. When I was going to counseling, it was $80 a session. I stopped because I couldn't afford it.

If anyone ever compared me to Big Bang Theory and or say Rainman. I would storm out.


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16 Feb 2025, 9:47 am

Jakki wrote:
When first started therapy , long ago ...Did not know could ask to change them ,put up with the first one for a year.
Seemed more interested in me listening to his life. Then went through 2 nd to 3rd quickly ...But kept the third for about 3 yrs. Good Mental Health to you on your mental health journey :nerdy:
Thank you, and to you as well! Sometimes I think that they use us as their therapists!


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16 Feb 2025, 9:49 am

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skibum wrote:
ToughDiamond wrote:
Good to see that somebody's fired a health professional. Too many people see them as some kind of authority.

I can't judge the merits of this case because I don't know what was said. But ultimately I think the customer is always right.
She basically asked me if I had incestuous feelings for my brother because he has been ghosting me and I am really struggling with that because we were very close and I really miss him.

She made it a point to say that I have to learn to take responsibility for what I say to people.

Sounds like she was a bit too sold on Freud.
Scary! LOL!!


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16 Feb 2025, 9:52 am

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Other than going to see a counselor one-time many years ago, I've never tried therapy. I guess I never knew how to go about it and worrying it wouldn't help. Not to mention the expensive, as I am sure my insurance would have a high co-pay. When I was going to counseling, it was $80 a session. I stopped because I couldn't afford it.

If anyone ever compared me to Big Bang Theory and or say Rainman. I would storm out.
A good therapist is extremely difficult to find especially if you are neurodivergent.

Funny thing though, I am very much like Rainman and even in many ways like Sheldon. My husband said that he actually started to understand me when he watched BBT. I am not as outwardly obvious as they are, but I am very much like them in so many ways.


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12 Apr 2025, 10:33 pm

Could someone who went to graduate school please answer this question for me:

When you go to graduate school, don't they teach you DON'T DO OR SAY THESE THINGS???

The therapists are supposed to be highly educated people, who paid a lot of money for school and are the graduate schools just popping a lot of movies in class like in a high school?